Who is this person and why would he or she want to do this to you?
My guess is that it was the guy who sits in the cube to the right of me. Let’s call him Paul. Paul is a misogynistic jerk, to say the least. He and the guy who sit on the other side of me constantly lean over my cube to talk about all “the bitches they screwed” over the weekend or “that fatass whore who thinks Paul is hot” and things like that. He shows up half an hour late almost every day and takes extra long lunches. He called a bunch of guys over to his desk and called this girl from his cell phone, put her on speaker, and broke up with her in front of a group of people, openly mocking her and telling her she was crazy if she thought he would ever be interested in anything more than a quick fuck with her. He spends all day on myspace and facebook (I am on the dope a lot though so I don’t begrudge him that.) He has made it perfectly clear that he thinks I am ugly and he doesn’t want to sit next to me. He even tried to have our boss make me switch cubes with someone else so he wouldn’t have to sit near me.
He is a jerk, but he is fast and efficient so nothing will ever be said to him about it. In December I was given this long term project where I have to collect data from everyone on my team every day and compile the results for our CEO. Paul is on my team. He HATES that he has to interact with me and purposefully falsifies numbers to skew my data so I have to go back and manually fix it. I am thinking that if it was anyone it was probably him, but up until this whole situation causing me to get written up I just let stuff go because I am not married to this job and I don’t want to make waves and then leave in a month if I find something better. Now that I am dealing with this whole situation though I will be keeping a record of all of his shit to present to my boss if I don’t find another job elsewhere.
Dammit, pbbth, why are you putting up with this creep? You need to say something to your boss. He’s a crude individual subjecting you to a hostile work environment, and the fact that he’s deliberately giving you false info *that you have to fix * should be brought to your supervisor’s attention.
It doesn’t matter if you’re leaving in a month, a week, or planning to stay there until you retire. This guy does not need to be at your job. For the sake of his future co-workers…document his bullshit and go to your boss. Fast and efficient be damned.
Wow. I didn’t realize there were people like him in real life. He sounds more like a character in a bad comedy, like a character breaking up with someone over speakerphone. He seems to be really immature (“I don’t want to sit next to her…she’s a girrrrrl!”).
Yeah, if you know he gives you false information, I’d put him on the short list, too. With any luck, now that it looks like someone is sabotaging you, maybe you can somehow prove it was him.
IANAL, but this guy’s behavior sounds like textbook workplace harrassment.Document, document, document and not just these appraisal mishaps but everything he does to you.
This sounds horrible. Best wishes to you.
I would have said something by now but he seems to have the support of most of, if not all, the men in the office. They stop by for the bitches and whores conversations, they all crammed in to listen to him break up with some chick, etc. He has this kind of Eddie Haskell thing going on where he is a total douche but I am the only one who sees it and all the higher ups think he is golden because of the sheer amount of work he produces in a day. Well, I guess if I am the only one who sees it maybe it is more of a Michigan J Frog thing than Eddie Haskell. 
And I figured that since I seem to be the only person it bothers if I find something new next week I don’t want to throw everyone into an uproar and then leave immediately.
I will be documenting every single thing from this point forward though. I am not losing my job because he is a jerk.
Who. The. Hell. Cares.
You don’t know you’re the only one it bothers. The other women in the office may be too afraid to speak up.
I can see why you want another job, though. And if you ever get the opportunity for an exit interview…
Yeah, that’s pretty surreal. I’ve met some real jerks in my time at various jobs, but never any so openly misogynistic and hostile.
Are there any new developments, pbbth? That guys sounds like something out of a book, to be sure. I’m a big believer in people eventually getting what’s coming to them, even if you don’t get to witness it, but I’m hoping you do.
Well, after I discovered all the missing appraisals I took scren shots and sent them to my boss. The written warning I was supposed to receive has not shown up so I am hoping that since I showed her that I did the work and it was not my error the write up will be forgotten.
I have a word document on my computer where I am documenting anything inappropriate that Paul does and keeping copies of screen shots when necessary.
I am still looking for another job though. Even if this all comes to light that it isn’t my fault and that someone (I assume it is Paul but I can’t be positive) has been sabotaging my work I still have a supervisor that up until about a week ago assumed I was incompetent and a work environment where I feel uncomfortable and targeted. At this point I am just kind of trying to keep a low profile while I find something better in a more friendly environment.
That sounds like a good idea - you’re absolutely right when you say your work environment and supervisor have been soured. You make one wrong step in the future, and all the suspicion comes back instantly.
And Paul is an unbelievable jerk - I can understand if you just want to get the heck out of there, but it would be satisfying to hear about him getting taken down.
Women need to learn how to empower themselves so that they can bring a stop to these horrid situations. I’m sorry that this is so rough on you. I remember how it feels.
Have you spoken to your boss about getting the previous write-ups rescinded?
I get and understand all this. Good for you - as long as you understand that you don’t have to just live with it. I understand that at this point it makes more sense for you to do so and I respect that and am not pushing anything. Just sayin’
I understand that I don’t just have to live with it, believe me! If his being a jerk was the only thing going on here I would have said something about it by now. Given the situation though I don’t want to throw my hat in the ring and start giving written statements to supervisors and get the rumor mill churning if I can avoid it. I don’t need more attention drawn to myself when I am trying to quietly find something better someplace else. Right now the less I have to deal with in the office the easier my time will be at work.
I think you need a microcassette recorder too. So when Eddie haskell denies everything you have audio proof.
You mentioned that your company is young. They probably haven’t figured out yet how to deal with hostile work envrionment issues either.
Even if you don’t keep this job, starting them down that path by making a stink would be a good thing, for you and for everyone else.
Good point, Zebra. I will certianly make mention of the situation, whether it be in a formal complaint or an exit interview. Really it just depends on how things go from here.
No advice, then. Just encouragement. Either I hope you get out from under this nasty stuff quickly, or find the strength to whup up on tptb and get shit straightened out. Paul certainly sounds like quite a piece of work.
Absolutely. My husband works in the construction industry, and he tells me that construction workers (traditionally very sexist) aren’t allowed to be as misogynistic as Paul is any longer, never mind a guy working in an office environment with women co-workers around all the time.