Hello dopers. I’m not one of the big names on the board, so most of you don’t know me. Only a few people know that I lost my wife last month, to a stroke, at the age of 49.
Her name was Susan, and she was an amazing woman. As part of my process to carry her with me in a positive way, I’m sharing this gift from Susan everywhere I can. It’s her favorite word: BELIEVE.
Susan believed in the power of words, and had the word BELIEVE all over our house. Because Susan was who she was, BELIEVE is a verb. She was a woman of action. As soon as she knew what she wanted, she didn’t wait one minute. So she didn’t choose BELIEF. You can talk about BELIEF without ever believing. BELIEVE changes things.
Susan’s journey on this earth is done, but I believe she wants us all to have the power of her favorite word. I ran across a quote in a book on grieving the other day - “All important decisions must be made on the basis of insufficient data.” True enough. So BELIEVE is ultimately a decision. You can’t BELIEVE because you have scrupulously eliminated any doubt. That never happens. You just have to go.
I have all the things from around the house - wall decorations, stones with BELIEVE etched in them, a Scrabble rack with the word ready to be played (for a bingo!). I’m going to be giving them to people Susan loved. But the real gift is the word.
All of us here have something we’re struggling with. It’s part of being alive. So whatever that may be for you, Susan wants you to have this: