I’m betting more women than men remember their exes’ birthdates and wedding dates.
I recently did some stuff on line for hubby which required info on prior marriages and spouses. He’s had two prior marriages, and he didn’t even come close on the years, let alone the dates. (Which might explain something about those marriages, but that’s neither here nor there.)
I can understand not recalling a ex’s birthdate – you weren’t even there – but a wedding date? How can that be?
I’m betting women would have no trouble with the dates, but that men, if they remember anything, might only remember the wedding date.
Heck, I still remember first hubby’s social security number, and he’s been gone for 15 years.
I remember my ex-wife’s birthday and social security, but not the dates on which we married or divorced. Perhaps that’s because those dates are in the fire safe if I need them.
I remember my first serious boyfriend’s birthday. And his phone number. Haven’t spoken to him in 14 years and don’t miss him. In fact, really don’t relish the memory of him in any way. Why do I remember this and no one else’s? Weird. I need to reassign those neurons, for god’s sake.
In an argument with Ms.Nic in which she claimed I probably couldn’t even remember her BD, in a momentary lapse of reason, I told her the BD’s of 8 of my most serious relationships over the last few decades. Stupid or not, my point was valid.
Wedding/Divorce dates, not so much.
I remember the birthdate of the guy I lost my virginity to - because it’s the same day as my dad (not year, sillies!) But I cannot for the life of me recall the date, or even year, of that “special time” we had together.
It’s odd - I can rmember the date (and often the year) for each of my long time girlfriends and my wife, because each was born on the 17th! So, I got March, August, July and December covered!
I’ve repressed my ex’s everything.
Once in a while I’ll see a woman standing at the curb waiting for someone and my mind will snap into nostalgia mode and I’ll think for a second it’s her and I forgot I was supposed to pick her up. Then I’ll realize the woman is like my wife was in college, which is one generation from when I last saw her. So I was off by 25 years remembering what she looks like.
I remember by ex-wife’s birthday and our anniversary, since both are easy days to remember (9/9 and May Day – maybe the latter should have told me something). Years, too. This is after over 25 years.
I remember birthdates, other special dates (dates we got together, did something special, broke up, etc), and phone numbers for all of my ex boyfriends and the birthdates / phone numbers of nearly all of my past and present friends.
It surprises some people.
