Have you ever had a friend tell you something that showed that they saw you in a radically different light than you thought they did? Or made you see yourself a little differently? Just today a female friend of mine said my “closet” misogyny was not so hidden. But what she cited as examples of it I had always just seen as my desire to be around women who are mature. I always knew I was cynical, but I never figured that what I said or did mattered so much to people, at least not in the way this friend portrayed it to me. Sure, I don’t want to have to pamper a woman or coddle her, but that’s just me. I never figured people would take that as indicative of my character. Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe I’m reading too much into this. Maybe I shouldn’t be posting it on the SDMB? 
I just know I feel a little unsettled that people are forming such opinions on me when i don’t think they know me very well. But I also can’t shake this feeling that that is just how the world works, and I’d better get used to it.
I welcome any and all comments on this situation, even critical ones. Older, more experienced Dopers, please impart some of the wisdom you’ve learned from being around. Am I a little off, or just too young?