So no one ever went to bed hungry? Cuz if they did, that was fussy eating. Perhaps you’re not familiar with parents acquiescing to fussy eating? Maybe that’s what you mean.
Is that what you took away from what I said? Of course there were kids who went to bed hungry… for about a day. I meant what I said and you knew exactly what I meant. Kids were not allowed to be fussy. They weren’t given a choice. But thanks for spending the time to take every word literally.
But I did no such thing. I didn’t quote his words with the intention of implying agreement with any OTHER words posted by the quoted poster. It was simply and only the comment regarding the abuse he has found as an officer enforcing handicapped parking laws. That’s it. Don’t draw any other conclusions from my quote.
You have to understand that posts are part of a thread… not just a reply to the previous post. I’ll agree that there are likely many people who abuse the handicap parking spots, so you (and I) can agree with that no problem.
However this was a rebuttal to a post that there are several documented posts detailing instances of a time when someone was incorrectly accused of abusing something they were entitled to… because sometimes they are wrong… Guilty until proven innocent? I apparently misunderstood this to be you supporting the idea that nobody can be entitled to a spot who doesn’t have an obvious disability.
Correct me if I’m wrong… I’m way to lazy to do an actual search :), but didn’t you at one time post something about how someone challenged you because you were in a handicap spot in a car that didn’t look like it should belong, and they only relented when you pulled out your wheel chair?
Again, I’ve got no beef with you… I’m a 50 year old man and there are a few bad days a year when I may not be able to get a fork full of food to my mouth without spilling it. I’m pretty good about covering it up and will often go hungry rather than embarrassing myself. When someone at a restaurant notices my problem… they are more likely to assume I’m a drunk who hasn’t had a drink in a while rather than being a spoiled brat. Apparently people here can’t understand that this hurts when you assume that about me and that I really can’t help it.
I assumed you would be more understanding since you have made many posts trying to get us to understand your plight. I will say that I have learned some things from your posts.
Apparently you were responding to only that one post, and for misunderstanding that I’m sorry.
Apology accepted. And I understand thread fluidity, that is why I was reprimanded by IvoryTowerDenizen for my “irrelevant” post when I made that quote of Loach. I honestly was not implying support for anything else he said. I’m sorry for hijacking the thread and causing all this needless confusion.
And the acceptance of the apology is appreciated, and I… Oh, hell I better quit before this bromance gets out of control.
The typo, and its connection to phone texting (eat->far is exactly what would happen on my phone with predictive text, anyway).
This is almost certainly due to a mix of rose-tinted recollection and the limited American palette of decades past. I’m sure my grandmother would say the same thing, but it’s worth remember that in her day, checkerboard-tablecloth Italian food was exotic ethnic food. She thinks it’s quite daring to sprinkle her deviled eggs with paprika and gets worried about the spice level of bell peppers. So yeah, she probably remembers herself as not allowing her kids to be picky, but that’s pretty easy when your dinner offerings consist of meat and potatoes or chicken and potatoes.
At the risk of encouraging the drive-by snarkers (Hi guys! Having fun?), all those people who say “people who are truly starving would not be picky eaters” are laughably wrong. In reality, people in food-poor areas have a predictably limited range of food they are familiar with, and are pretty easily disgusted by food outside of their comfort zone. Picky eating is a worldwide phenomena, and has probably only really become so noticeable to us because modern Americans are exposed to an unprecedented range of food.
Very good point. And I’m not super old (30, but my mom’s in her late 50s and she did just like her mom did with her) but my mom certainly tried the whole “you’ll sit at this table until you eat this dinner” thing for a longass time, and it never took. For years she was super into weird health food too. Has anyone else here been raised to believe that raisins were “candy”? Because I was. And I still can’t stand those things, or a bunch of other foods. I’m a picky, unadventurous vegetarian, and so is my sister (and I never once knew a vegetarian until I became one). I wish I wasn’t so picky, but I can’t help it.
Here’s a rule of thumb. When you’re about to say something about the new generation being the worst ____ers, and NO ONE in your generation did ______, you sound like an old grouch.
Has there ever been a single generation that has claimed the youth were better than them? If there is, it’s surely less than 1% of recorded history. Part of becoming old and senile is thinking your generation was the bees knees and those young whippersnappers have none of your admirable qualities.
Common on the SDMB btw.
I wasn’t reprimanding you, for goodness sakes. I was opining that it wasn’t an argument in favor of the kid being spoiled. Without context, I thought your comment was contributing to the conversation and I responded to it.
RE: picky eaters, there have always been picky eaters that parents tolerated or didn’t tolerate in every generation. He’ll, my 89 year old dad remembers his mother making special things for him for dinner, as does my 49 year old husband, as do I. And I remember some of my friends parents being really rigid about it. Often, in the generation before me, kids would be fed their own kid-friendly meal before dad came home and mom and dad would eat grown up food together.
Which shows more self-control than I could muster. I’d be Speculatin’ Like A Mofo, all through dinner. Oh, and I’d have to be restrained from sitting down at their table and asking “So… how you folks doing? I couldn’t help but notice…”
And as for the observation that the OP proceeded to “ridicule the child on the internet”, I got more of a “baffled/intruiged” vibe from the OP. But even if it was “Ha! Teen FAIL!! Parenting FAIL!!l!|l1!!”, isn’t it better to keep your mouth shut in public and come back here to do it?
That’s gotten me through a few tough spots, thinking “Okay, just let the boss go psycho, don’t bait her, don’t yell back … and I’ll have a great story for ‘Workplace Rants’ in the Pit tonight …”
My 92 year old Nana was never made to eat what she didn’t like. She raised her kids the same way.
I actually do agree with this, although I was raised on the “you eat what’s in front of you or you don’t eat” school. However, I may just naturally just not be a fussy eater, because I still eat anything that’s put in front of me. I was a bit surprised that when I did live and spend time in poorer countries just how picky the eating could be. Most people are not adventurous eaters and gravitate to what is familiar and comfortable to them.
It is better, you’re right. But better still would have been to not say anything at all. A grade of 50% is better than 0% but it’s still failing.
Yeah, but this is a jacked up example. I don’t care how picky a starving African is, if the option is starvation vs. Plumpy Nut, they will eat that Plumpy Nut up like it’s a tbone steak.
My kid can cook for herself now, but as a kid, I tried very hard to cook things she liked. If she got too cute, though, I would let her know she can eat what I cooked, or she can call it a night. She may have called it a night once, but I bet she wouldn’t call it a night twice in a row. Food phobia…I wonder what my grandma would have said to me if I had tried that. Boy, they would have laughed and laughed at me.
As for the OP, it is really hard for me to call it because it seems like one of those situations where you have to see it to know how you would judge it…I like to think I can tell shit from shinola, but I would have to see the girl in action.
What’s up with the product placement in the OP, though? Does picunurse have stock in 13 Coins?
ETA: digs is cracking me up, with his nosy ass.
And who is saying that?
A generation or two ago people pretty much mostly ate food that required knives, forks, and spoons.
Today, I am sure a some fraction of todays kids were raised eating mostly foods that do not require utensils/cutting food up.
And, IMO its not beyond the realm of possibility that some small fraction of those kids/young adults (with shitty parents) aren’t quite clear on this whole utensil thing.
When somebody here comes along and claims that not one of todays generation can use utensils you might have a point.
I think rogerbox was referring to the whole ‘we ate everything on the plate and there were no picky eaters when I was young’ thing. But I could be (and have been) wrong.
Well, thats certainly possible. But seriously, when somebody says nobody (or implies it) did X back then, do you really think they literally mean that NOBODY did it or that they mean it was not common/much less common?
I didn’t identify the child or parent. I was commenting on a general observation that kids in our fast food society are not taught table manners. This child, to my eye, exemplified that observation.