A Wish for Re-Phrenology or Domestic Violence and Victims Who Enable It

Today’s local paper had this story about the sentencing for a local “hero.”

You’d think, given the history associated wtih this schmuck, a history that this latest victim seems to have been aware of, that he’s gotten arrested in past for domestic violence, only to sweettalk the victim into dropping charges. In this case, the victim was mad enough at the time of the incident to insist on an arrest, and then when the arrest was made, there was enough evidence to support a conviction on some of the charges.

In spite of her trying to stop the prosecution, because, “she was as much at fault as Sulli.”

I know some of the reasons for how women (and men) can get into the position where they make excuses for an abuser. I know that the last thing that any victim of domestic violence needs is to have someone else crapping on them.

But as disgusted as I am with Sulli (He of the “I’m innocent except for the charges that I was acquited of, which I’ll admit to, now.”) I’m almost as disgusted with this woman, too.

She needs something. I don’t want to say that I know exactly what she needs, based on a newspaper article, but what she’s doing now sure doesn’t sound safe. Nor even pleasurable.

I can’t get up the energy for a true Pitting. It’s saddening, and disheartening. It’s coming on top of some news with respect to The Monster that’s worrying and upsetting me, too. There are so many people I’d like to help, not least being myself, and it often feels like there is no way to do it.

I just wish that re-education could be done via re-phrenology*. It would make mental health treatments much more satisfying for the caregivers. And would probably motivate me to get into it…

*For those not familiar with the term: re-phrenology is a hypothetical therapeutic adaptation of phrenology. According to what I’d heard, it’s one of PTerry’s ideas. (Even if it isn’t I’m still giving him credit for it, because it sounds right up his alley.) Since phrenology was the prediction of personality based on bumps on the skull, it follows that to adjust a person’s mentality one may simply add the appropriate bumps to the skull, to try to induce the desired traits.

Well, that’s what Sulli was trying to do… give her skull the bumps that would make her do his bidding. Seems to have succeeded too.

At least they went ahead with the prosecution even without her help. People like him make me absolutely speechless. “Well it wouldn’t have happened if she did what she was told” Absolutely sickening. I hope he becomes Bubba’s best friend in jail.

What she needs is to be kept away from him long enough to discover her self-worth and to realize all the lies he told her; ‘you’re nothing without me’, ‘nobody else will ever want you, you’re so ugly/stupid/whatever’, etc.

Think cult. Think being deprived of contact with others, told things that aren’t true over and over; basically, having your personality stripped away. That’s what those SOBs do to their victims. There’s nothing wrong with her that wouldn’t have been fine had she not had the bad luck to fall for him.

That’s retrophrenology. Men At Arms if I’m not very much mistaken, and only as a footnote. Zorbo the Retrophrenologist was a troll who accurately advised his patient that “this won’t hurt a bit”.

Quiddity’s right, of course, but what do you say to a woman who cuts herself loose from one man like this and makes a beeline for another?

Well, if by “adding bumps” you mean “two-fisted orbitoclasting,” then…yes. Yes, it can.

If someone can help me write up a grant proposal, I could even prove it.

Well, given that I dislike the sight of blood, especially my own, I was thinking of using a rawhide mallet, to keep from causing scalp lacerations, while I used it myself. So, I think we’ve got a small mismatch here in how we’re envisioning the study.

(Now, just have to get that mirror placed juuuuust right.)

Now now…the right tool for the right job. I believe there is an equipment manufacturer in Louisville that will fit the bill perfectly.