A man goes home with a woman. They go to bed. In the middle of the night he gets up and goes to the toilet. He mistakenly returns to the wrong room, where the woman’s flatmate is in bed. He has sex with her. The flatmate assumes it is her boyfriend, who had actually fallen asleep drunk in the lounge.
Afterwards, the flatmate switches on the light, realises it is not her boyfriend and has hysterics.
The man is to be charged with rape.
Believe me, I sympathise with everyone invoilved in this, but am I a bad person for finding this extremely funny?
(Assuming the man is honest and wasn’t just being a sleaze, in which case it’s not funny and he’s an ass.)
Question- how do you have sex with a man you THINK is your boyfriend? Even when it’s “completely dark,” I doubt his body was so completely similar that he felt the same next to her. And was their no verbal, uh, communication during this time? Could she not tell that it was a different voice?
(Assuming the man is honest and wasn’t just being a sleaze, in which case it’s not funny and he’s an ass.)
Question- how do you have sex with a man you THINK is your boyfriend? Even when it’s “completely dark,” I doubt his body was so completely similar that he felt the same next to her. And was there no verbal, uh, communication during this time? Could she not tell that it was a different voice?
Unless we’re dealing with two sets of identical twins here, this story’s gotta be bunk. Like all women or men are interchangeable? Even when I’ve been drinking I’m pretty sure I can distinguish my boyfriend from a stranger. My guess is that this is some kind of fraud (on both their parts), though I can’t tell how.
Correct me if I’m not reading this right, but it seems to me that if Party A has sex with Party B and Party A believes he is haveing sex with Party C and Party B believes she is having sex with Party D, if Party A is guilty of rape, so is Party B. I think the whole thing reeks of injustice. She never said no, and there is no indication she was too impared to say no. He was impared enough to go tot he wrong room, shouldn’t she them be charged with rape since he was impaired? Guilt after the fact is nothing at all like rape. He didn’t do it just to dominate or humiliate her, and her boyfriend wanting to hunt him down and kill him only proves she is dating a hotheaded idiot.
If the story actually occured as presented, then she’s just as guilty of rape as he is.
“In her statement to police, the magazine editor said Mr Chappell was “pretty drunk” when they arrived home and they went to her bed but she refused to have sex.”
If Mr Chappell was drunk, and the accuser had sex with him anyway, didn’t she legally rape him?
Every one of those has significant consequences for the man as well.
He could just as easily lose his relationship, get a disease, become ostracized from his family and friends for “raping” this innocent girl. And if she becomes pregnant and decides to keep the baby he now has a lifelong commitment he may or may not have been prepared for.
I’m not trying to minimize the impact to the woman, just pointing out that it isn’t quite one-sided.
How can this be? The roommate was asleep when he started having sex with her. And even if what he claims is true, that he thought she was the woman he came home with - well that woman had said no already. How is it remotely acceptable if a woman says no, to start having sex with her anyway while she is asleep?
