I’m the team captain of a recreational adult flag football team, and one of my players told me that he was diagnosed with a curable form of leukemia and won’t be able to play this spring. He’s a good guy, but I don’t know him outside of flag football – what’s the most appropriate way to respond, and should I offer to help with anything?
My instinct is just to say “I’m very sorry to hear about the cancer, but I’m very glad it’s curable, and I wish you and your family the best”, but I also feel like I should perhaps offer to help with any little errands he might need around town. Part of me worries that this kind of offer is self-serving, because he’ll undoubtedly have close friends and family helping rather than a friendly acquaintance.
Also, I assume he’ll be in the hospital at some point, and I think he might appreciate a visit from me and the rest of the team, or perhaps just flowers. Is it appropriate to ask “when will you be in the hospital, and what hospital?”?
What do you think?