When you (or one of your nearest and dearest) were first diagnosed with a critical illness, what did you most appreciate from your close friends when it came to support?
I know this will vary from person to person. But looking back when you were still in shock and upset and scared silly, what do you remember as being the most helpful? Or looking back, if there was something you think “I should have asked for such-and-such” what would it have been? What are the things that pissed you off? What are the things that were the most thoughtful and appreciated?
A good buddy of mine was just diagnosed with something really, really scary, and I’m looking for insight. Right now, he’s too terrified and shellshocked to think straight. So any input about what would help him out would be appreciated.
Some people might want their friends to carry-on as if nothing at all is wrong, others might just want to be squeezed in a great big bear hug. I know there won’t be one single approach that would be most helpful, but a variety of anecdotes and experiences about the good things that made it easier, and the well-intentioned things that just made it worse, would be awesome.