Okay, so, I’m in my late forties, female, and I had a heart attack in December. In the hospital for a week, I won’t bore you with all the details; but it was not heart disease, it was stress-related. I was sent home with instructions to “reduce the stress” in my life, to hopefully prevent it from happening again.
While I was in the hospital, and for a few weeks of recovery time afterwards, I was amazed at the outpouring of flowers, phone calls, cards, and visits, as well as numerous offers to cook meals, pick up groceries, etc. This came from family, friends and co-workers.
But it’s now a few months later, I’m still majorly stressed, and all the help vanished. I still NEED the help, and I’m scared and lonely, but everyone seems to have just moved on with their lives. I’m sure if I asked for help, I would get it, but I feel like no one cares since the crisis has passed and life has moved on.
I noticed the same thing when I had my children; everyone wanted to come to the hospital, and then the week I returned home, it was a revolving door of visitors, even though I needed rest, not to entertain while simultaneously breastfeeding. Then everyone disappeared at the time I REALLY needed help (a month or two later, sleep-deprived and exhausted - THAT’S when I needed someone to come over and cook and play with the baby so I could sleep).
I realize that people get back to their own lives - but I feel very alone. Do they assume I’m just fine if I don’t ask? Am I supposed to ask? Recently, thousands of people were all contributing to help Haiti after the earthquake, but the people in New Orleans are still suffering from the effects of Katrina. Who remembers them?