I don’t get this. I’m a straight guy, and I have straight female friends that I don’t want to bang. Is it your belief that this is unusual?
It could be the poster expressing the commonly held belief that men will gladly fuck anything with a pulse.
Apologies if it was just a joke, but the whole men-can’t-be-friends-with-women-without-wanting-to-fuck-them is a meme that many seemingly take seriously.
Obviously I don’t know how old you are, but one of the reasons why none of my gay friends seem to have straight male friends, either, is because of the kids thing: we’re all in our 40s, and all childless. Which means we have more free time and more disposable income than many parents, and no significant shared interest. I’m not saying there are no childless straight men in their 40s, but I will say that I don’t remember the last time I met one (who wasn’t also at least a little homophobic).
I don’t think it’s always true (although it often is) but it’s not just men either, the woman might be the one that wants to be more than friends. I just said it because in my situation I know if the woman really doesn’t want more, because I am the woman.
Some men might like to have a female friend that they know doesn’t want to bang them, too. Probably just super hot men though.
I’m a straight guy and have female friends I do not persue sexually. Chicks find that especially attractive! (note, I said “chicks” and not “bitches”)
Well, see here in The Adult World we have friendships and relationships that aren’t based on sex. The men I know seem to realize I have a brain. Imagine that.
I’ve never thought about it, apart from when I see right-wing nutjobs on the news claim that they can’t be racist because they have a black friend, and I worry that I don’t have that defence if ever I say something stupid.
Well don’t worry, I don’t think you actually have to have any black friends in order to say it.
I don’t want to be racist and a liar - that’s immoral 
For now, I’ll stick with insulting people from China, Sweden, Germany, Australia, Canada, Wales, Ireland, Poland and Cornwall.
I don’t know what Cornwall is, but I think I’ll start insulting them too.
I guess I have Affirmative Action friendships, though I wouldn’t have worded it that way. It’s not that I went out shopping for a black friend, a gay friend, and so forth. But on the other hand I recognized that “it feels weird to me when my friends gradually become homogenized … it isn’t a state that feels healthy to me” as jackdavinci said. So, for one thing, I tried to notice when people demographically different from me seemed friendly and approachable and whatnot, and reached out to them. And for another thing I wound up doing some corporate diversity work along with my “day job” (as others similarly call it), which created all kinds of opportunities for new friendships. I found I really enjoy these friendships in a genuine way for their own sake. I think a good analogy might be when you travel to a new and different location, perhaps overseas. Is the attitude more like trying to get a kick out of everything that is bizarre and unusual according to what you are already used to? Or is it more like really liking the place you wind up, partly because it is interesting and partly because it’s just plain excellent? For me it’s the latter.
I find it weird that people think a guy will be attracted enough to every single woman that he will will want to have sex with her solely based on her gender. Even in my horniest of days when I lowered the bar, I still would not just have sex with anyone who was willing. Even people I find physically attractive I won’t always have that kind of chemistry with, and even with people there may seem like a good idea to have sex with, and we do and find out it’s not something we want to do again, I can still be friends with them.
There’s a pretty big difference between “every single woman” and “women who are his close friends”. Presumably you don’t consider your friends hideous or anything.
I have friends I don’t find attractive, and friends I consider outside the bounds of conventional attractiveness. And (hygiene issues aside) I wouldn’t avoid being friends with someone conventionally unattractive.
I think the issue is not being friends with a certain gender, it’s being friends with someone you’re attracted to.
No, but I have done something more analogous back in school–seeing the kid who, for one reason or another, didn’t seem to be making friends and intentionally giving him a chance. I’m sure there were other people who already had friends who would be just as good a friend, but the guy with fewer friends needs more. And, if he turned out to be a jerk, it’s not like I’d stay friends with him. That to me is affirmative action. Not some quota idea that you need X number of people to be diverse.
Plus, in the rare instances when this podunk town has gotten any diversity, I’ve always just naturally become friends with them. Being different is just interesting to me.
I never set out to collect diverse friends to fill any quota, no.
We do seem to have a kinda diverse circle, but it happened organically. My husband and I were just discussing this last week, after hosting a July 4th party. A friend married a nice lady from Nicaragua and although there’re still language issues to work through, they’re always welcome and we enjoy spending time with them.
She sent me the sweetest little card after the party thanking us for hosting, and talking about how comfortable she always is at our house since we seem diversity friendly. Very nice letter, and it’s always great to hear someone enjoys themselves and is comfy in your home.
We did kinda giggle counting it up later, tallying all our friends seeing how many marks we could tick off on the pretend checklist, but it all happened gradually and without intent.