The flight attendant could have found a better way to explain things, but she may have a point.
If it’s not your job, it’s not your job. Indeed, I wouldn’t be surprised if regulations forbid flight attendants from helping with baggage for OSHA/workers comp reasons. There are rules for jobs that require this kind of physical labor. Furthermore, a flight attendant has many other duties, many of them essential to the safety of all the passengers, that need to be cared about during boarding. Asking them to take on tasks outside of their primary duties during this critical period may not be very fruitful.
The airport/airline should make it clear what services they do and do not provide. It seems like this woman expects a companion to accompany her and aid her throughout the trip, which seems to be something that they do not provide. If you need that level of care, then yeah, maybe flying alone may not be an option for you. If you need special services, you may end up waiting a while to get those special services, and honestly if they are being offered for free, perhaps you shouldn’t complain too much? That’s a harsh reality, but it’s a reality.
From the LJ post, it seems like this woman got her panties in a little bit of a bunch. Am I really supposed to believe the flight attendant “gave her a disapproving look” when she asked for a whiskey and Coke? I cannot imagine a flight attendant, who does this all day, would even bother to have a reaction at this extremely ordinary request. She was too upset to take BART so she spent $45 on a taxi? Cry me a river.
Sounds like she’s being a bit of a drama queen. Flying sucks for everyone. Sometimes you gotta suck it up and not pick at every detail.
I say this as someone who once spent eight hours on an unpaved bus ride followed by an overnight train in sub-Saharan Africa with a broken back. I’ll tell you, if you want something that sucks for the disabled try the Cameroon Rail Company!