I value place over a lot of other lifestyle decisions in life, and it seems like I’m finding that most other people put “where they live” on the extreme low-end of deciding factors and priorities for living. I feel that place - where you choose to live on a city and neighborhood-level - actually has a major impact on the lifestyle that you live and so on.
In other words, I decide where I want to live, and everything else must fall in line with that when it comes to life decisions, for the most part. I love my neighborhood in Chicago and I chose to live here and other lifestyle decisions must accommodate it. I have a friend that was just shopping around for grad schools, and it means that he’ll be packing up and moving to either Boston, L.A., somewhere in New Mexico, etc. That mentality boggles my mind; in my sense of priorities, the #1 factor in choosing a grad school would be “is it close enough to where I live for me to take public transportation or drive to it?”
Ditto for jobs - you hear about people moving across states for new jobs all the time. My mentality is, “oh, the job isn’t within commuting distance of where I’ve chosen to live? Well, no thanks, then.”
Some friends of mine - married couple - recently moved out of the neighborhood in Chicago that they loved in order to buy a place in an exurb that’s almost an hour and a half away. Sure, it’s great that you were finally able to buy a house, but when you have to move an hour and a half away from where you actually want to be, doesn’t that kind of defeat the point? Now you life in a soulless, boring suburb that you feel absolutely no connection to - but at least you finally own!
Does anyone else feel the way that I do? I’m starting to feel like an army of one.