In the past 2 weeks, I’ve added two people to my friend’s list who have NOTHING on their Facebook pages other than a fuzzy picture and some very basic profile info (city, hometown, etc).
One of 'em in is a woman who I met through a mutual friend. They stopped by my house, we hung out for a while, had some shared interests, and in general I thought she was someone I’d like to stay in touch with so a few days later I friended her. She accepted. She’s got over 200 friends, but next to no activity on her page other than a few photos.
Another is a woman I met totally randomly last week at a restaurant. We were all waiting to get drinks, we ended up talking, turned out we had some mutual friends, we had some laughs, and I promptly forgot about her until she friended me yesterday. I didn’t even recognize the name but figured out who she was by a picture. OK, fine, I said yes.
Once again her page has next to nothing on it - it’s completely empty, moreso even than the other person’s page. WTF? But over 200 friends.
Now, I know there’s no mandate to post on Facebook, and it’s entirely possible that they have security settings set up so that new people don’t get to see anything. But what’s the point? I mean, if you want to get to know people, post SOMETHING. The occasional joke, an interesting website, I’m not asking for a life’s history or any sort of personal information. It just seems totally contrary to have a page, friend people you barely know, but not expose any information about yourself so that maybe you CAN get to know these other people.
I do know people on Facebook who use it mostly as an online contact list and rarely post. But these are people I know well in real life, and I’m OK with that because they contribute to the relationship in other, real life ways. This whole thing where I barely know these people, they don’t offer any way of getting to know themselves, but they see all the crap I post is creepy to me. It’s like people who show up at a potluck, don’t bring any food, don’t know anyone very well, but help themselves to all the goodies while standing in the corner and not talking.
I’m giving them a couple weeks then unfriending them if they don’t come through. HA! That’ll teach 'em. No lurkers on MY friend list!