“certainly never seen such behavior”? Not even once, and remembered so vividly over 50 years later that it is posted on a message board?
I recall once when I was about 14 visiting a buddy who had a pretty good-looking big sister who was about 17. My friend and I and another friend of his who was about 15 were sitting at the kitchenette when my buddy’s sister walked by in a tight pair of pedal-pushers (as they were called then) and this other guy reached out and patted her rump and she walked by. She whirled around and slapped him in the face so hard it almost knocked him out of his chair an yelled, “DO NOT EVER TOUCH A GIRL ON THE BOTTOM LIKE THAT AGAIN! EVER! DO YOU HEAR ME??” And naturally, me being me, I couldn’t understand what the big deal was (:p) so when the incident came up to my friend’s mom I asked her about it and she said that you just don’t touch girls or women on the bottom (that’s how people talked then). It’s disrespectful and you should never do it. (Given my age she left off the sexual connotations so I still didn’t get it, but the next couple of years took care of that bit of ignorance.) But the point is that during this same era, women and girls set boundaries and enforced them, and they were a hell of a lot better off than now where any and every affront is a source of outrage and victimhood.
I remember years ago hearing about how liberals were working to create a society of victimhood, and that’s exactly where we are now. If someone says the wrong word or does the wrong thing (in this case, a hand on a crotch) it’s “OMG, THE WORST THING EVAR!!!” and the recipient is trained by societal expectation to be traumatized by the experience, to feel victimized and helpless and negatively affected for life, and the offender is widely believed to be deserving to lose a career he’s spent perhaps decades striving and sacrificing for and/or go to jail for what in reality and according to any kind of objective assessment is a relatively minor offense.
It does not do people favors to convince them through your own reactions and attitudes to their misfortunes that they have been irrevocably wronged and traumatized by some unfortunate thing that has happened to them and that they’ve permanently damaged. It’s much better for people to be brought up to learn how to deal with adversity and then put it behind them without taking it personally.
There was massive snipping to isolate that little anecdote. But that whole thread highlights why you may not hear women tell you about harassment- you make it clear that you feel it just shouldn’t bother them. Or set and enforce boundaries in what some might call an unladylike manner.