Let me not say ‘this place’, I take that back. There are individuals here who say mean, ass-holish things, and that does not reflect on everyone here. Just certain dickish things that are said.
So much for fighting ignorance.
What exactly are the rules of this thread? How did Theory of Farts make the cut, for example?
There were no rules originally, but since the last few “secrets” sent to me were very obviously sent as jokes, not secrets, I decided that I’d only post secrets that were not obviously sent as jokes.
The fart one still probably would qualify – it might be meant as funny, but it also seems like the kind of thing someone might really believe but be afraid to post under their user name.
It’s all by my judgment, so if I have any doubt, I’ll probably still post it. At least until I get bored of it.
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I am a 53 year old average looking kind of well off man. An absolutely stunningly gorgeous woman wrote to me through an online dating site. She wasn’t in my requested age range by over ten years but she wrote to me because we both love live music and the same genres. She is a total sweetie and just an amazing human being.
She came over to my house on Monday and we ate some shrooms and soaked in my hot tub and had insane amazing sex. What the fuck she sees in me, I’ll never understand but it’s now Wednesday morning and she’s still at my house. I love my life
Shagnasty?
As already said in this topic through the following exchange…DO NOT make guesses at who the people are.
Actually, this secret isn’t even from a member of the SDMB at all.
“But, if you’re Jewish, why are you even in a Catholic confessional in the first place?”
“Heck, Father, I’m telling everybody!”
Oh sorry, I missed that!
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I got two pairs of eclipse glasses when I was only entitled to one.
My SO and I waited too long to buy them. Our last resort was the library. They had ten to give away, one to a family, first come first served. We’re regulars at the local branch, so we couldn’t both go and pretend we didn’t know each other. So I went and was first in line. After I got my pair, I zipped over to the next closest branch, which opened an hour later and where we are not known, and got another pair.
After the fact, I think it would have been okay for us to swap one pair back and forth. My SO says I’m very considerate to have gone to all that trouble to get two pairs, but I wonder if I’m horribly INconsiderate of whoever was eleventh in line at the second branch.
I shared mine with at least 10 people at work. Some of them were planning to look at the eclipse with sunglasses so the fact that I had a pair may have saved someone from damaging their eyes. I certainly didn’t need to use them exclusively myself. Looking at it every 5 minutes or so was plenty.
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Many years ago I worked for a neurosurgeon who was an arogant greedy asshole. His salary was $500,000 a year. He did consulting work for a medical device company and traveled the world teaching doctors to use their equipment. He would submit and get paid for his expenses by both our clinic and the device company. That company would also give him gifts of all sorts. One day the reps brought him a camera kit - Nikon body, three lenses, flash, filters all in a nice bag. After they left he stuck the bag under his credenza. I’m an amateur photographer and was so envious. This was a kit I couldn’t even begin to afford.
Since I knew he did not care about photography, I kept an eye on the bag. After six months, he had not touched it. I moved it to the bottom drawer of my filing cabinet. In case he ever missed it, I would tell him I thought it was better to have it locked up. He never did. Another six months passed. I decided it was safe enough at this point to take it. I brought in a pet carrier under the cover that I was lending it to someone. I kept it under my desk for a few days. Then I put the bag in it and carried it out. I worked there another year and he never missed it. But I got plenty of use out of it.
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I’ve been married, and happily so now, for over 15 years. I love her dearly. We are in love with each other. We love being intimate, holding hands in public, and at home stroking each other. I love the feel of her skin. We have sex often. We’re both in our 50s and the sex is great. We love to snuggle, and we enjoy doing many things together.
She likes sex. I do too. We have sex frequently. She has a hot body.
But when we have sex, I can’t help but think of a long-ago lover and being with her during it. That sex was wild. It was great. It was 20 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday. We’d fool around in many ways and in many places like in her apartment elevator, on the commuter train, while driving down the freeway, I’d eat her out in the movie theaters, and banging her while standing up and she’s up against a wall and I’m holding her up while going at her.
Sez with my wife is great. She gets off often enough, she’s a patient lover and a giving lover but I can’t help but think of that other lady while fucking my wife. Every time. Is there something wrong with me. Do I need help. I do love my wife but I get off with her while thinking of those things. It’s like I’m fucking that old girlfriend instead of my wife. And I fuck my wife often. And I really do love her. Is there something wrong with this? How do I fix it?
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I tell everyone that I have a degree, but the reality is I flunked out of college. Education is very important in my family and I was too embarrassed to admit I failed.
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Hi!
I don’t even know why I’m updating you but I can’t really talk about this with my “real” identity. (This is the girl that was doing massages and got caught in case you don’t remember).
So this guy and I (“Evan” is a good name to use for him, not his real name) have been spending a lot of time together, and it was honestly just as friends first and that was it. We even talked about his wife and his marriage and even about why he decided to get a “happy ending” massage. (He and his wife don’t sleep together any more because she has a condition called dyspareunia.)
Anyway, I am sure you can guess where this is going. Yes, we ended up sleeping together.
So now I am sort of wondering what comes next. I really didn’t plan on being “the other woman,” EVER, but in this case it is sort of justified because he doesn’t have a real marriage.
But he is older than I am and I never imagined marrying a guy older by this much. So what am I doing if I am not in this for real? I don’t really know.
To reply to the latest one, I’d recommend being very wary. It’s very possible that he’s lying about his marriage, but even if he’s not, you could open yourself up to a world of trouble. Such relationships almost never end well for either party.
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This is an update to post 104 about me meeting a much younger woman and doing shrooms in my hot tub. It’s now two months later and we are in a committed relationship and completely in love with one another. She is essentially living with me half time which is on the days that she doesn’t have custody of her children. Neither one of us has ever had such a strong connection and our bond keeps getting stronger. Neither one of us ever expected this to happen but it did.
Good on ya.
It’s not hard on non-liberals. It’s hard on nonsense.
I got another secret out of the blue, so I figured I’d remind everyone of the rules – OP below. As a reminder, you can send me anonymous secrets and I will repost them without attribution, deleting any emails sent.
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I’m seriously thinking about divorcing my husband of 21 years, just due to politics. I can’t stand all the conspiracy and racist pro-Trump talk. He’s a good husband and father, but our kids will be out of the house soon, and I’m not sure if I’m in love with him any more. Sometimes I wanna scream and I almost feel like I hate him, just based on some dumb thing he said about women or immigrants, over and over again. It doesn’t matter what I say to him; he just laughs if I disagree.
It’s important to remember that there’s a difference between disliking someone because of their politics and disliking someone because they’re an asshole, even if politics is the primary medium for their assholery (as appears to be the case here). Spouses are not required to vote the same way but they do need to show some respect for each other, *especially *in areas of differing opinion, which it sounds like is not the case here. And if he’s voicing views that are openly misogynist and dismisses your objections to those views, that’s another red flag.
Obviously only you can decide whether enough effort has been put in towards reconciliation of differences, whether marriage counselling would help, and where the point of no return is. After 21 years I would hope that you had some leverage to get him to at least speak to a counsellor, and maybe the threat of separation will be enough of a jolt to get him to consider it. However, I would recommend sorting out your financial affairs and possibly speaking to a lawyer before broaching the subject with your husband, lest he engage in some financial jiggery-pokery and leave you too cash-strapped to leave or hire said lawyer.
Note: IANAL or any sort of relevant trained professional.