How long does the crush have to last to call it a crush? I met a woman (when I was living with someone else) at an out-of-town event. Totally crushed out at first sight. I mean, no sleep, no eating… that sort of intensely painful crush.
Three days into this agony, I told her that I was completely crushed out… she was flattered, reciprocated the affection…
17 years later, we are still inseperable!
I once had a sex dream about a plutonic female friend of mine.
I confessed this to her one time when we were alone (and after drinking copious amounts of alcohol.). To my surprize, she said she once had a sex dream about me too.
After describing our dreams to each other we some how thought it would be a good idea to “make out” with each other just to see if it would be as hot as it was in the dream.
Well, this lasted for about two minutes after which we started giggling like a couple of school children. It just felt too weird. We stoped right then and there and agreed to never speak of this again.
Did she get near uranus?
I dated a guy for a couple years on whom I’d had a crush; I’d crushed on him for months before hand, and when we finally went out the stars from the crush blocked my vision for a long, long time. I think the crush helped sustain the relationship for a while, because whenever I’d start to think about what an ass he was (or what an ass I was when I was with him), I’d remember the feeling of my crush on him, and would get less annoyed.
Ultimately, though, a relationship with a major crush really isn’t that different for me than any other relationship.
When I was working in construction I had this co-worker. Man alive…he was hot. I had the worst crush on him. He was beautiful and shy and ever-helpful. And beautiful.
It lasted for months, but I knew it would never work out. He was much younger than me, and I know my place. Not beautiful, scraggly in my old clothes, hair in braids.
So I snuck peeks at him and kept quiet. All my girlfriends knew though. I’d talk about him all the time. One day I knew I was in trouble when I couldn’t breathe after watching him stretch…his back, oh my god, so brown and strong. I could barely talk to him because I couldn’t stop watching his perfect lips to focus on the conversation.
So I tucked it away and laughed at my foolishness. In 35 years I’d never had a crush on anyone. I was always a settler.
After about eight months of this pushing it back and trying not to think about him, one day we were just goofing off waiting for supplies. We were rolling this marble around, passing it back and forth. Then we got closer to each other, and closer…and then we kissed. And kissed some more. And we kept on kissing for the next three years. And now I’m waiting for him to come home from work so I can kiss him some more. And he can kiss our baby girl too. 
I know…awww how cheezy.
I had a massive crush on this guy in my class for the first year and a half of law school. When he joined our study group halfway through first year I was elated. I still remember one night after class, there was a miscommunication and both he and I thought the group was meeting in the cafeteria. Only he and I showed up. I was so nervous during our 20 minutes of chit chat before we realized no one was coming. Come finals, we grew closer since we were in study group almost 24/7, although he and I never really had all that much one on one time.
Then, all of the sudden in second year, he started paying attention to me. It was a bit odd. He had taken home my laptop to work on my computer and after that, was making efforts to talk to me. We met for drinks with the rest of our study group and after we left and I was driving home, he called my cell phone and asked if I wanted to meet him to grab a bite to eat. I thought I’d died. It was like the mini-fantasy in my head was actually playing out!
Then we started chatting online, every night after class. Then he asked me on a date. During this whole time, I kept pinching myself. I’d had tons of crushes in my life and never did any of them end up like this! Found out later his “sudden” interest in me stemmed from an email I had written about him to my friend that he had stumbled upon when he was fixing my computer. He knew the whole time we were flirting that I had a huge crush on him! I was mortified!
Anyway, we’ve been together almost two years now, and have been living together almost a year. Even now, sometimes I’ll look at him and think “I cannot believe I actually ended up with him!” It’s by far, the best relationship I’ve ever been in.
Rushgeekgirl, that is one of the most beautiful stories I’ve ever heard. Don’t we have a misty-eyed smiley yet?
lezlers, if you think about it, that’s one of the best, least risky ways to move forward with a crush. I’d say you were lucky he found your email. 
Rushgeekgirl,
Cheezy is just awesome!
I had a very intense long term crush on a boy… and when I was 19, we got together. It was magnificent. Absolutely worth waiting for. You know how at 19, you love in ways you’ve never loved before, and in ways you’ll never love again? That was him. An artist, a music lover, gorgeous in my eyes. Made me laugh, made me cry, made me say “look at the colors!” in bed
Some shit got stirred, so to speak. Not his fault, not my fault. The stress was too much for him. He broke my heart, apologizing the whole time. I would have married him. Two years later, wounds were well healed, and we did the friends with benefits thing for a few months. And I was able to let go with no regrets.
Saw him 2 years ago, and was able to hug him and be happy for him. For real.
And if he’s here for some random reason, thank you Rob, for all I learned from you.
oh yeah. those are the best kind, 'cause you never forget how lucky you are.
in the end, though, they always functioned for me just the same as any other relationship. this may have to do with the fact that my crushes aren’t really ‘pedestals’… they don’t ignore the flaws, they encompass and appreciate them, so I’m not so disillusioned when I have to actually deal with them.
That was a fantastic post, WishIHadACoolName.