Okay, I’ll admit it: Obfusciatrist and I did not “do it” on our wedding night this past Sunday. We had to drive home from Reno to the Northern California Bay Area, and with him starting a new job the next day, we got in too late and were too tired to start hanky-pankying this past Sunday night.
So… anyone here willing to admit they DIDN’T consumate things on their honeymoon night? Did it get you in trouble? Did you pass out?
The seven-days-blissfully-wedded Mrs. Baglady
Hey, congratulations you two!
(Can’t answer your question since I’m not married, but several of my friends have said they didn’t either - too tired.)
You’re not alone, Baglady - same thing happenefd to me. After staggering back to our hotel room, I spent half an hour pulling around 7000 pins out of her hair, and then she lost consciousness. I fell asleep four hours later, as I was too wound up to rest. We made our marridge effective the following morning.
See? First things first.
I am going to assume that you and your husband, like most couples nowadays, had had sex before you got married. In fact I am going to assume it was a regular sexual relationship. Assuming that is true then I don’t think it is any big deal as few couples have sex every night so not having sex on your marriage night is just like skipping any other night. But if you had not had sex together before then I think you were friggin’ idiots to let anything else get in the way of it.
Although, yes, we HAD “done it” before, we were so busy and tired after the drama that I think we didn’t get around to it for 4 or 5 days (wasn’t high on list of priorities).
My ex-husband and I had been living together for almost a year before we got married. Our wedding was a really small one in my friends living room, and I was 7 months pregnant. I still remember my ex settled down to watch some movie of the week about Jim and Tammy Faye Bakker, and I filled out warrenty cards for our new appliances. No nookie.
It’s not as uncommon as you might think, according to Dr. Ruth. She had a book a few years ago, but I foget the exact title. Something like The Married People’s Guide to Sex. She actually advocated waiting until the next morning, IIRC, even for people who had never had sex with each other before.
depends on how you define “it” …if you are talking actual penetration, then no … but as for other things … well, big party + lots of excitement + both of us all dressed up + a day of huge amounts of romance + a nice relaxing time in the inroom hottub afterwards (while I removed those 7000 bobbypins) = horniness … sorry, it just does!
A friend of my wife’s had her husband go out with his buddies on their wedding night.
The marriage didn’t last long.
GASP! I resemble that comment!!!
Okay Alessan, I’m dyin’ of curiosity hea. What did you guys do with the 7000 pins after she was done wearing them for the wedding???
Bobbypins! Bobbypins! They were holding her veil on for crissakes! Jeez, I don’t even want to know what you’re thinking about…
As for what we did with them - well, we now have a life-long supply of bobbypins. We consider them among our few material assets.
My fiance promised me a full night of sex on our wedding night(in 2 weeks). We have never had a WHOLE night of nookie. He has started popping the ginseng and drinking protein shakes in preperation. He is sleeping late the day of and relaxing the whole day so he doesn’t get tired. Our wedding is a t 7:30. I don’t want to not have sex on my wedding night, but the statistics aren’t looking good. My wedding mags say that most don’t and if they do it isn’t good. We’re abstaining to, so I better get some!!! -stamping feet-
…are you sure it will be with your husband, or will you bring some other guy from work in on your wedding night?
:eek: low Whammo low (but I have to admit funny)
I can’t answer the OP for myself since I am still single but I do know that two couples that I am friends with did not have sex on their wedding night. They both say that they were just to exhausted from all the planning of and the wedding itself.
Your lucky I’m in a good mood whammo.
I even laughed at that. Pretty funny…
I just got married in a small civil cerimony yesterday night. I didn’t get any either.
Not too much of a problem, though, since we’ve been together for 8 years with a regular sex life.
Just another day.
K.
I recall reading that it was an old Chinese belief that sex on the wedding night brought ill-luck: better to wait a day.
Did, but seriously considered not. We were both tired, but we decided we “should” and did and promptly fell asleep. Wouldn’t have been a big deal if we didn’t, but hey, it was our first “married” sex together. (He’s been married before so it wasn’t his first “married” sex ever, but it was mine…"