Do you think that’s funny? First off, I don’t drink. Second, it’s not funny.
Isn’t it strange how there are a few extra details there that she didn’t share here. Nude pics with the totally platonic guy friend, really?
This. She’s obviously going through a lot and while it may seem like a drama move, this just isn’t like her.
April, I hope you can get some help and find peace.
I have not made and will not make any value judgments about her or her behavior. I don’t believe it is necessarily a bad thing - nor a good thing - for her to sext or even sleep with someone else.
What I’ve been suggesting is that such decisions need to be made without self-deception and one needs to take ownership of one’s decisions and behaviors. Don’t pretend that the sitaution is something other than what it is. Don’t put responsibility for your preferred outcomes on the other person or on chance. And don’t blame others for the consequences.
People have sex outside of marriage all the time. It’s often hurtful and often leads to bad outcomes, which is why it shouldn’t be considered lightly. But it’s quite possible for some spouses to be okay with it, and that doesn’t make them “pussies” or “cuckolds” - those are reactions based on other people’s values.
So, my position is don’t kid yourself about it, own it, think about the range of potential consequences and either work to mitigate them or decide that you can live with them, and then go into it accepting responsibility for having done so.
Just to clear up one thing, the message board I was referring to wasn’t the SDMB, it was a relationship specific message board.
The fact that someone from this board took the time to seek me out and follow me to another message board is obsessive and creepy. I was trying to find a place online where I could discuss my situation further with a new perspective, because I am trying to seek help and this particular thread isn’t obviously the place for that.
So you can laugh and pick at me all you want, but I’m trying to move forward with this in a positive way, while one of you creeps takes the time and effort to cyber stalk me.
One pic, one.
And that was because I respected yalls impression of me at one point in time, but now I don’t care anymore.
Yea, only funny when you are making fun if someone else.
The very premise of your thread was that the friendship was all very platonic and you didn’t want to lose that, when people started saying that it was all about the sex you tried to deny it.
But they were right, it was all about sex, you were sending the guy nude pics and fantasising about him sexually. You were not being at all honest in that thread, which isn’t really a surprise now is it.
Again, one pic, not pics. And yes, a facet of it was sexual. But I.doubt the critics are concerned with what’s factual and what’s not. They are enjoying the public lynching. Have your fun, but I’m doing something about it. Following me to another message board to supposedly “out” me screams of desperation and obsession.
You keep saying things like this, but it is a fundamentally dishonest representation of the feedback you got.
So, seeing it as a hatefest (even when it wasn’t) seems to serve some purpose for you. Just like talking about this matter across multiple message boards is doing something for you too.
Was it you? What did you (or whoever it was) get out of following me?
I’ve talked about this with multiple friends. You have something negative to say about that too?
As far as I can see you aren’t too concerned about whats factual either.
It was not me. However, I did get something from reading that you had done that, and that you offered different details when you told your story - sharing a nude photo - with your platonic friend who you were going to momcation with. I got the sense that you were less deluding yourself and more that you were misrepresenting the story to us. I wonder why? What purpose would it serve to get our reactions to a false version of your story? What purpose does it serve to repeatedly vacillate between “you are all right and I’m stopping” to “you are all haters and I won’t stop” to “you are all right and I’m seeking help” to “I was on another board and they hated me.”
I don’t care who you talk to, just like I don’t care who you fuck. I do think it’s weird to talk about such intensely personal things, as they are occuring, with the public on the internet. That is not common, and it would seem to be meeting a need of yours. I wonder what that is?
I tried to stop posting in here.
When I did, someone took the time and effort to track me down to another message board.
Tell me how that was necessary or normal?
You’re a liar. You would have only said what you did if you or someone on this board you know (and who subsequently told you) went to the other board and read my thread there.
Now who isn’t being honest?
As for my behaviour, it was a normal progression through a difficult and confusing issue I’m currently dealing with. I’m coming to terms with EVERYTHING that I did and said. I’m making progress. Can’t say the same about who ever it is who feels the need to keep goading me back in to this thread.
You limited yourself to sending one nude pic to your fling because of your concern of how WE, a message board of strangers would perceive you, and not because of… Oh, I don’t know… YOUR WEDDING VOWS AND THREE CHILDREN?
So… A nude picture that only had a facet of sexuality to it. Girl, get some help.
No. Dipwad, one facet of my interaction with Guy Friend was sexual. We also talked about our day, work, family, life…
He happened to have a dick, so the part of me that likes dick objectified him and used him as a sexual outlet.
Most people are complex. Maybe that alludes you, or you prefer to see peooke as one dimensional.
Inna, you need to work on your comprehension skills. My sending of.the pic had nothing to do with this board, withholding of sharing that I sent the pic did have to do with my fear of being ostracized by the board. Since that isn’t an issue anymore, y’all know everything, I don’t care to do anything but clear up any confusion and correct and factual errors made on the part of those who insist on keeping this thread alive.
I can assure you that I am not lying.
This all just gets creepier and weirder every day. April, I would suggest that you just stop replying and use the time and energy you would have spent here on yourself, your husband, and your children. Continuing to engage in this isn’t benefiting you or them at all.
April has made no secret of the fact that she is a very troubled person right now.
What kind of jackass feels the need to stalk someone on another message board and throw it in their face?
April, the internet is not helping your state of mind and neither was chatting with your friend. There is nothing wrong with needing attention, but this is not a good way to get it.