You know, I read most of the comments in this thread earlier and I expected some kind of heinous beating. After watching the video, I don’t have any feeling of outrage. My family is straight out of Africa. I’ve gotten, and seen, much worse beatings than that.
This is not necessarily the case. Even if you can’t watch it dispassionately the first time, it’s entirely possible to go back and look at it analytically. Being able to do so does not make one “fucked in the head,” and suggesting it does is silly.
Maybe I wasn’t clear, but yes, I meant on a first viewing.
Wait. So you don’t think a grown man putting all his strength into blows against a sixteen year old girl is heinous? You’ve gotten worse?
Then you were a victim of child abuse. I’m terribly sorry for your experiences.
Before CitizenPained comes in here with her “it’s all culturally relative!” screeds, I will say that he was a victim of child abuse as defined by our culture. It is perhaps true that other cultures might not consider this abuse.
However, that point is irrelevant since unless OMG is not FROM our culture, it IS child abuse.
Would it be okay if we wrung our hands and clutched our pearls and tsked? People are upset because they saw a brutal beating. Or they thought it was a brutal beating. That’s upsetting to a lot of people. And if they question other posters, or disagree with them, it’s not “all this bile”. You’re the one making wild allegations.
This casual acceptance of the normalcy of such violence makes me sad. It is wholly unnecessary for the raising of our children.
Since this is the pit I’m free to say I don’t believe this, and also most of what you post on the SDMB. I would bet GOOD money against you being black.
Yup, I’ve gotten worse. And seen worse. I think the worse I ever saw was the spanking/beating/whatever you want to call it my cousin got when he stole and went joyriding in a car. My uncle beat him so bad he had welts on his body and my grandmother had to give him a bath in saltwater and bleach. Yes, yes. Child-abuse and whatnot. I disagree and I don’t really feel like going there, so whatever.
All I was saying is that I was kind of expecting worse from the outrage. I guess you could argue she shouldn’t have been beaten for what she was, but as to the actual beating? I’m not going to lie. I can’t really get outraged about it.
How much would you like to bet?
(You put the money down and I’ll take a picture. I’m game for that.)
You know, just because you’ve seen and gotten worse, still doesn’t make it not child abuse.
Yes. This made me cry.
I spent my childhood protecting my little sisters from that bullshit as best I could; unfortunately I left home for my own sanity when they were 14 and 12. Things did not go well for them after that, in fact my middle sister chose to spend half of her last year of high school sitting in juvie, because her only legal alternative was returning to my mom’s custody.
You know, it really is all relative to what you consider the norm to be. But by setting the bar so low that leaving welts isn’t even abuse, at that point the word loses all meaning.
You’re such a liar, Kolga. You start namecalling for no reason, and now you keep making up things I never said so you can argue…is this the Doper version of Internet bullying? Do you feel less shrill now? Did the proverbial dick get bigger? Feel smart and tough yet?
What the hell is wrong with you? I understand this is the Pit, but you (supposedly) are a grown woman with a doctorate and some degree of respect from your peers.
There was nothing in my response that said, “So what?” The best you can do is make up things. Put your research skills to use and start citing.
Which wild allegations have I made?
Maybe you should go back and re-read this thread, as there are quite a lot of rather vicious statements in here, not just questioning and disagreeing.
Who gives a shit? So you’re supposedly from some fucking backwater with barbaric standards of child-rearing. What, you think we want to import that shit?
How many kids do you have?
It would need to be more like a video chat for an extended period in which you answer questions about conversations you’ve had here.
Cite? I believe that you were the one who started with the descriptions of “shrill” and “off your rocker” in reference to me.
The arguments that you’ve made are arguments that boil down to “so what?” Especially when you start talking about cultural relativity in what’s considered abuse and what’s not. I’m sorry that your education was so poor that you don’t see that that’s what you’re doing.
I’m making arguments on a message board. Is there something you’d like to see different? I’m not really sure why I disagreeing with you means there’s something wrong with me. I’m disagreeing with you, and I’m discussing why. If you want something different, go somewhere else.
Again, your entire posting history in this thread can be boiled down to “so what?” You’ve mentioned that you believe that this kind of behavior is legal (it’s not), normal (it’s not), and common (it’s not), all of which are an implicit argument of “so what?”
This is a surprising opinion. I am surprised. A notorious and thought-free conservative thinking that brutalising a young girl is A-OK! Well, helps me understand your sociopathy, you dumb fuck.
Hopefully none.