Tristan:
Yes. I am a romantic at heart, and I do my best. Difficult with my work schedule, but I’m trying.
The fact that she hates flowers, candy, cards, surprises, and thinks that cuddeling and hugging is annoying is a bit of a buzz kill on that front.
I agree 100%, a marriage is about give and take. Took me a while to figure that out… I was all about the give, and went to far. HArd to stay married to someone who you don’t respect because they let you treat them like a door mat, apparently.
We shall see what happens.
Makes it tough. The only thing I can offer is to ask her how you can show your love, if you do. Ultimately, you can’t make her do anything right or wrong.
You can tell her to go fuck herself since she’s cheating on you. At that point there’s no relationship to save, as far as I’m concerned.
Tristan:
Huh. I’m kina surprised by the folks who say that their own folks stuck it out and ended up just fine.
I’m currently married, and while I love my wife, she likes me more as a friend she occasionally has sex with. I haven’t been told "I love you"by her in just over a year now. She actively wanted me to move, and we had decided on divorce a while back.
She has since changed her mind, but I have been contemplating moving next Summer anyways, as I don’t want to be stuck in the Friend Zone for life, while she persues a side relationshion (cheating, again).
Shit’s just complicated, isn’t it?
Maybe I should wait it out.
I’m kinda in the same boat, except with children and no cheating (I think!).