Are more attractive women better lovers?

In My Humble Opinion
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At first I was inclined to mumble something akin to Dangerosa’s articulation, as my own exhaustive studies strongly support Ex Machina’s Fellatio Ratio theory.

This POV was loudly endorsed by one of the most unashamedly studly, and ‘successful’ Don Juans I’ve ever had the fortune to know - who achieved bedpost notch number 5,000 earlier this year, no exaggeration neccessary.

BUT…

I would have to opine that this inverse correlation applies almost exclusively to oral pleasure, and does not play out in the long game.

Here it goes:
Leaving aside the given “eye of the beholder” caveats for beauty,
the less classically attractive women know that they are, and are therefore much more likely to have a poor self-image. These are the ones that will simper around, turn the light off, hide under the covers so you won’t see their cellulite, act as if sex is dirty and embarassing, and get dressed as soon as possible.
That’s just not fun to be around and deal with.

Although some beauty queens can also be neurotic, the above-average lookers are happy to expose their body and let you enjoy it with a smile. They can lounge about comfortable in nakedness. I find this a most attractive trait - attractive in the general, not just good-looking sense. Plus being good to look at. :smiley:

And yes, on a physical level, it feels better to be knocking boots with a fit, shapely speciman with good skin than it does to be up close and personal with pores, flab and bad hair.
Avoiding the “Dingo Arm” phenomenon is also important for your own mental health.
You can quote Pulp Fiction all you like and claim “Personality counts for a lot” but there is a biological imperative at work when the majority of us try and select a mate. Looks and Grooming will always give Personality a run for its money - even after the road test.

When choosing someone to live with, see every day, and raise your children, sure, pick the person, but in the bedroom, excluding all other factors, the beautiful body is a natural choice.

Yes there are a thousand folk who may wish to say that their wife is pig-ugly but great in bed, and congratulations to you all. Did you really expect a PC post in this thread?

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Wha…? Even if one could pull a different partner every second night, that would still take 30 years. A new partner each and every week and we’re talking nearly 100 years.

That said, I agree with your theory: beautiful people may be more confident in bed, since they’re less likely to have hang-ups about their body shape.

Then again, what do I know? I’ve never slept with anyone less than the ravishingly beautiful… :smiley:

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Dingo arm?

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That may be true for some attractive women, but certainly not all. I don’t know anyone who has that philosophy.

I think it has more to do with how much a person enjoys sex. It doesn’t matter what you look like, but if you’re really into the act of sex you will become skillful at it.

Heh, I do know a guy who refers to himself as the “Alpha Male,” meaning that he thinks he’s God’s gift to women. From personal experience, I can honestly say he has a very inflated sense of himself.:smiley:

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Is Dingo arm anything like Coyote Ugly?

FWIW, I think it’s more about attitude than looks.

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When you sober up after the festivities are over and would rather chew your arm off than wake the person resting upon it.

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It doesn’t matter what she’s like in bed. As long as we can nudge our buddies and say “Dude. I did her”.

An orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. As long as it isn’t our hand doing all the work, 'sall good.

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Ah yes, the ol’ coyote ugly. And of course, there’s the double coyote ugly when you chew your other arm off afterwards because you know she’ll be looking for a one armed man.

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Of course not, Indygrrl. Individual variation exists. I’m not bad looking (and fifteen years ago was considered very attractive - the road from 25 to 40 has not improved my “traditional” beauty) and I am (of course) great in bed.

I agree that liking sex has a lot to do with it, and perhaps more importantly, enjoying giving pleasure to someone else. (My husband dated a woman who really liked sex, had few body inhibitions, but he said it was rather unfulfilling to always give and not receive). And that for someone unattractive, body inhibitions can put a damper on things. And that body confidence can go a long way to making someone attractive that wouldn’t be that good looking without a little attitude.

I do have to say its held for the majority (but not all) of the men I’ve dated. The good looking, well off, able to take you out for an expensive dinner, good looking women are easy to come by guys were not interested in blowing my mind. The scruffier, slightly overweight, let’s go dutch, I really want to see you again this may be the only chance I have this year to have sex guys definately were.

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I’m going with Indy girl. I think I am considered pretty attractive and so is my boyfriend (just ask his female fan club!!) he’s is a fabulous attentive imaginative lover. Orally, sensually, and any other way you want to consider it. We just have great chemistry together.

And no I can “blow” the fellatio theory out of the water (no pun intended. I think it has less to do with what someone looks like than with what is inside. Are they shallow and self centered? Or are they really interested in giving pleasure to their partner? For my bf and I the biggest thrill is turning each other on. I love nothing more than to hear him scream in pleasure.

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I volunteer to research this subject should I ever become single.

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AngelicGemma– careful, that sounds as though you’re soliciting for a contract killer.

(Okay, maybe only to me.)

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There is also the fact that more attractive people get more practice. (At least for guys, any woman can pretty much have sex whenever). Unatractive guys just don’t get as much hands-on experience with the equipment.

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How is an ugly girl like a scooter?

Both are fun to ride until your friends find out! :smiley:

She said I was terribly handsome. Is that an insult?

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Eh. I’ve had some of the best sex of my life and some of the worst * with the same woman,* at different times of course.
She is quite attractive by any standard, but has often said that she’s not comfortable with her appearance. I’m not sure how “chemistry” should be defined, but I think it has everything to do with fun between the sheets.

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Very appropriate sig, gatopescado.

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:smiley: LMAO

Actually, I’m very much in love. (All together now - awwww)

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Impressive statistics alright. However it was common (as in several times a week) for him to get off with 3 a day, and he would complain disbelivingly if he was dry for three days in a row.
Maybe not always all the way, but I wasn’t checking up on it, only saw the pics he’d bring in on his cell phone… :eek:
And he was into his 40’s.

I eventually concluded that his “ugly” theory quoted here - otherwise known as “justification for having no standards whatsoever” - contributed to this incredible score. :dubious:

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I’ve found that the more women a man has slept with the worse he is in bed. A guy who has slept around hasn’t been with anyone long enough to feel comfortable enough to ask a woman EXACTLY what she wants.