I feel the need for a disclaimer that I don’t think anything is WRONG with any kind of sexuality per se, I’m just curious about a distinction.
I always assumed people were either attracted to men or women, or both. But I assumed it was the physical form they were attracted to whatever their orientation is. So say you’re a hetero woman so you are attracted to men, of course there are millions more qualifiers and stuff but basically the first condition that must be fulfilled for you to be attracted to someone if that they are male.
But in talking to people about extreme same sex segregation situations like prison or a ship wreck I realized several people didn’t seem to view human sexuality that way, they viewed it more like you’re either dominantsexual or submissivesexual. So to such a person a male is acceptable as a sex partner as long as he is being penetrated or performing oral. Like the basic mental idea isn’t I am attracted to men or women, it is I want to be penetrated or penetrate?
Am I totally off base here? I assumed sexuality was based on what physical form you were attracted to, not social roles.