My experience in the South has been extremely limited, but consistent. The people were always super friendly in that extra sweet way. I simply couldn’t even get used to it. Everything was ma’am and please and thank you and have this, no I insist, I knitted you this sweater while you waited, shucks, ma’am, twernt nuthin, we baked you a pie, please do come on in and stay a spell.
The places I have been treated this way are North and South Carolina, Virginia, and Florida. I have heard tell that many whites there treat blacks one way to their faces, and another behind their backs and other variances, but I have no idea if that’s true, I only know how I was treated.
The North/east coast gets a rap as being rude. Maybe, to some, depending on how one defines rude. All I know is that folks on the east coast are genuinely NICE. Meaning, they will help you. Anytime. Maybe not with a smile and a lot of sweet chatter, but they will stop, in the cold or rain, or 90 degree heat in the blazing sun and tell you how to get where you need to go. They will give to those that need it and those that they know don’t *need *it but still need it. They are truly nice people, for the most part and I almost have never, in all my time in NYC, been treated badly when asking a stranger for help, which I have had to do a LOT.