Penius. Noun. A word for people who are exceptionally talented in bed. Penii: most of the people involved in the average “Blacked” gangbang video. 
Look. Suppose Bob is a sadomasochistic amputee who has a fetish for fat transgender Asian women. And suppose he happens to live next to Alice, a fat transgender Asian woman who has a fetish for sadomasochistic amputees. They can either both sit alone in their rooms, feeling like approaching the other would be vaguely sinful for reasons they can’t exactly parse. Or they can, as the economists say, derive gains from trade.
I don’t think Ozy objects to Bob and Alice starting a relationship. I just think they object to either of them ever asking the other whether they’d like to start a relationship. If the Relationship Fairy fell out of the sky and magically informed them that they were interested in each other, then it would be totally acceptable. But if one of them has to go and check, then that’s wrong, because it might make one of them feel “objectified”.
But if you lash out in anger any time someone investigates whether they can make a mutually beneficial deal with you, such that fear of this reaction prevents everyone all around the world from ever trying to make mutually beneficial deals with anyone else, then the problem is with you.
I’m generally sexually attracted to transwomen. I’m also generally sexually attracted to women with large breasts, hairless men with swimmer’s physique, women who have the “bimbo” aesthetic, and a very long list of other characteristics, including magical sentient pastel ponies giving me bedroom eyes. Is this demeaning to all parties? What about it is demeaning? I honestly don’t get it. I’d be flattered if someone felt sexually attracted to my physique, and before I get to know you, I have nothing except your physical appearance and immediately obvious qualities to go on. And as Scott says in the above article:
Ohmigod. I just realized my girlfriend doesn’t actually love me for who I am. She just loves all of my characteristics.
So… I guess I’m confused. What’s the problem?