My answer is similar, though I’m 37 instead of 38, and I’d be open to step-parenting or adoption as well.
But, sure. I’m ready to settle down, and I could make the right type of guy a pretty decent wife*. It’d help if I had more opportunities to meet single men, though. At present I know exactly one locally, and not only is he not my type, he’s not even 30 yet.
*but would make a emotionally needy guy a terrible wife.
I have to fend them off in droves. Single ladies. Married ladies. Married men. Woodland creatures. Passing trees.
It’s a burden.
I am Groot…?
Be wary of amorous trees. They appear slow, but they can sneak up on you.
I think I have been ready for marriage always. Even when I was a kid I knew (intellectually) the responsibility and sacrifice that would be required. I always had very high standards, though. It had to be the right guy. And I was always going to meet him when I was finished with grad school and had established a career.
I ended up finding him WAY earlier than anticipated. I was an 18-year-old mess at that time. He handled it, somehow. We married at 23. I’ve been in a committed relationship for 12 years and married for 8. Marriage fits me, just like I thought it would. Monogamy is the natural orientation of us both. We enjoy doing things together, and I don’t only mean fun things, I mean things like long-term financial planning and various behavioral modification experiments. During the worst moments in life I’ve told him I’d rather go through it with him than with anyone else. I’d be fucking crazy to screw that up.
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Out of all the married couples I have known in my life, at least 75% have been open about their unhappiness and the vast majority of the remaining ones have been really bad actors using marriage as a cover for some other more terrible thing. I only know of 3 couples in my whole life that have shown good evidence that they really are happy and better off being together for the long term.
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I’m not saying there’s no luck involved, but I’ve seen so many people walk into relationships with red flags a blazin’, you could always see it coming miles away and then when it all falls apart, they act like some grave injustice has been done to them. I watched all four of my mother’s marriages fall apart, I watched my husband’s parents’ protracted six year clusterfuck of a divorce, and countless other relationships go to shit. Then I look at my friends, most of which are in happy relationships like mine, and the difference in their behavior and how they treat each other is glaringly obvious.
But most people don’t want to hear that. They want to hear about how awful their spouse is to them and be validated for all the pain they are going through. The pain is real, and in many cases, the awfulness of the spouse is real too. But the reality is that the quality of any given union is generally a product of the behavior of both people in the relationship, not some characteristic inherent in marriage itself. Often the only way to salvage a relationship - if indeed it is worth saving - is to take responsibility for it.
I would say no. The lighting struck just once 22 years ago and I doubt it could again. I have minimal social skills and am charitably ranked a solid 4 in physical appearance. On top of that, finding a lady that will move around the world to places like Luanda would doubtless be a deal breaker. :eek:
I believe that I am, but none of the men I’ve dated since my divorce seem to share that opinion. And my current SO, whom I love dearly, is straight-up opposed to ever getting married again and has so many limits on our relationship and so many health problems that it’s not gonna happen. Plus he makes some assumptions about how much I would be wiling to change my current situation to be with him full-time. Since I know he’s not interested in me living with him, I don’t waste time arguing with him about it. He does admit I’d make a great wife, and encourages me to find someone else when he dies, which cold happen any second according to his doctors.
And for what it is worth, I’m surrounded by couples with great, supportive, long and strong marriages. I’m the only one of my closest group of friends to have made a bad selection.
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I’m already married. My wife is pretty happy and so am I, so I guess that means yes.