Chalk me up as one who doesn’t like the “we” thing. Even if the man is helpful to you during your pregnancy… doing more around the house, dishes, laundry, etc., that doesn’t warrant him taking credit for “being” pregnant. Yes, he contributed to creating a life, but everyone already knows that. If they don’t know that, send them to a sex-ed class. IMHO, the man should be helping you out around the house regardless or whether or not you’re pregnant.
I don’t see this as a “taking credit” thing for being pregnant. Who cares? I mean, it’s pretty obvious to everyone after a while who the pregnant one is, anyway. It’s not like he could really steal the spotlight, even if he wanted to!
And yes, the guy should be helping around the house anyway, but when a previous 50/50 split in housework turns into an 90/10 split, he’s doing his part to make sure that I stay rested and unstressed, which can only help the baby.
I really don’t like the “we” anything. Even if you are a married couple, you are still two distinct individuals. I have a friend who is about to get married. Since she met her SO, she is no longer “Jane”, she is “JaneandTom.” It makes me sick, it really does. I am sure she will use the “we” phrase when SHE gets pregnant.
Women can be pregnant.
Couples can have a baby together.
Lesbian couples could both be pregnant, but Hetero couples can only have one be pregnant (so far us men are lucky like that!).
So it has been written, so it is done!