In which we discuss how one describes the situation in which one member of a monogamous couple is expecting a baby. Poll in a moment.
I’m/She’s pregnant.
“We” can be expecting a baby, but (unless it’s a lesbian couple who have both concieved, which is kind of a cool idea) only one of them is actually pregnant.
A lesbian couple deciding to both be pregnant at the same time strikes me as an insane idea. Well, not insane, maybe, but unwise. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing, but it’s also debilitating. Better that one partner not be going through it so she can support the other better.
But that’s just me.
Oh sure, insane. But still kinda cool.
I voted for both SM options:
“She’s pregnant” if I’m talking about my wife (and she’s not there)
“We’re pregnant” if I’m talking about the family (or Laura’s there)
… it really is kind of a situational thing.
I just want to smack people who say “we’re pregnant”.
I’m gay and dont want children. But I don’t believe there’s any “we” in pregnant.
Me too. It’s the sort of thing simpering soppy couples who finish each other’s sentences say. “We’re expecting a baby” strikes me as fine, though, in fact I’m sure I’ve said it.
I think my wife would smack me if I said “We’re pregnant”. At the very least she’d say “Good, you carry it for a while!” (she’s at about 7 months right now).
Oh yeah, no problem with that, because it’s actually true, they are both expecting a baby. They are absolutely not both pregnant. Did “we” throw up all morning? Are the stitches in “our” genitals hurting? I mean how far does this thing go?
I guess it never bothered me to have a guy say, with lots of enthusiasm, “we’re pregnant”. I mean, *obviously *it’s inaccurate, but the poor guy’s happy about it! Isn’t that awesome?
As for me, I will never be in this situation.
You guys seriously need to read the previous thread on this topic.
This. If my husband had used the phrase “we’re pregnant” during those 9 months I was barfing hourly, getting weird rashes and new and exciting stretch marks, etc., he would never have fathered a second child!
Straight male–she’s pregnant. I know I’m integrally related to the baby-making, -having, and -raising processes, and I really like and fully embrace my role, but still there’s no baby growing in my uterus (since I don’t even have a uterus). Seems to me that the “we’re pregnant” thing is really phasing out, which I applaud.
I’d say either I or we, depending. If we’re announcing it to family and friends I think the “we” is sweet. For too long pregnancy was a women’s issue, with dad not going to doc appointments or being at the delivery. Now, it’s a joint affair with dad fully involved. It’s sweet and dad gets to have some attention too.
For most conversations though, “I’m” s jut fine.
I’m pregnant, we’re expecting. My husband is not my conjoined twin, sharing my uterus.
Yup.
Hey, I enjoyed my part of the process.
I don’t mind “we’re pregnant.” It seems kind of sweet.
‘We’re pregnant’ is so stupid it makes me want to stick my fingers down my throat and make juvenile gagging noises. If you-plural are pregnant, then you need to be talking to the highest echelons of medical science, not to me, because you’ve just personally transformed biology as we know it and the entire future course of the human race. (Obviously I don’t say this, I smile and say ‘Congratulations!’ But this is what I’m thinking.)
Yes, the guy can be very deeply involved, and that’s wonderful. But he is not pregnant. He’s really, truly not. I can prove this any time he’d like, with a pregnancy test and a quick piss. Are you also planning to say ‘We’ve got morning sickness’? ‘We’re having Braxton-Hicks contractions’? ‘We’re in labour’? ‘We had a C-section’? ‘We had six stitches’? You’re not? Why not? Might it be because he didn’t?
It’s great that men are more involved nowadays, but this is one part of life in which men and women just plain do not have the same experience, and it’s moronic to pretend that they do.
Gahhh. End of rant.
Straight male.
“I’ve never met that woman before in my life”