- When I started at the strip club, the manager told me to follow one rule if I wanted to work there for more than a week or two: never trust a dancer!
What glamour or excitement there is about a strip club wears off entirely by the second or third day working there, especially when you are charged with enforcing rules (Bouncers at most strip clubs are in charge of keeping customers in line, but also keeping the dancers in line. It’s an awful, thankless authority position, like being a babysitter for a bunch of bratty, catty ten-year-old girls having a slumber party and determined to wreak havoc. Dancers will try to do drugs with patrons, get real drinks from the bartenders (when you buy a stripper a $10 drink, they are served either an extremely diluted drink or a special glass with only about 25 mL in it - one of their jobs is to get customers to buy them some minimum amount of drinks per night), lie about how many drinks they sold to try to keep the entire price instead of their percentage, have sex with patrons, poach another dancer’s rich customer, sabotage another dancer’s clothes, shoes, or cosmetics, get customers drunk enough to steal their wallets, and on and on… when there is a conflict between dancers, they will either start fighting or come and get the bouncer to settle it. At my club, the manager had absolutely no interest in these mundane, small issues, and left the decisions totally up to security. My first night on the job, I fired a dancer for dealing ecstasy and suspended two more for fighting.
There are a lot of dancers who work only at one or two clubs, but the way that most clubs have established their rules, dancers can be suspended, fined, punished by being put on “floor only” duty (no stage dancing, just mingling and selling drinks, which makes them less money), or just plain fired. In practice, this leads to a whole subset of dancers that basically rotate through area clubs, staying until they get in trouble for something or have a serious conflict with management or other employees, then repeating the cycle. If you know the management or security of other clubs, you learn why the new employee left their last job, and what to watch out for.
Short answer: I never dated any strippers, nor would I recommend it. I’m sure there are honest, good women who are actually doing the job just for the money, who take their job and family seriously, who are worthy of trust (I knew exactly one the whole time I bounced - she became a very successful real estate investor and got married), but the odds are stacked dangerously high against any trust being validated.