Ugh, I do need to squeeze my knees together before I sneeze. Maybe it’s because I dilated so far? My midwife said my muscle tone was great. Hmmm.
On the plus side, nookie resumed quickly and without any drama.
So, I gotta know. What happened to all those bugs that were getting assigned to you as the only resource person in those last two weeks before you went on maternity leave? And when DID you go on leave? On the 15th you said you had 8 more work days, but you didn’t log into the Dope after the 18th for a long, long time. (Why, yes, I went back and looked. I like imagining the look on the faces of nasty people when they discover their object of torture has both escaped them and turned the tables on them. Plus, I’m nosy.)
What is back labour? Never been pregnant and not likely to be at this stage of my life, so there are many terms I’ve never heard of.
congrats. OY back labor OUCH! and stuck baby OUCHIE OUCH! don’t know how it will work out for you long term, but my son was a back labor baby two years ago and my wife has to go to the massage therapist occassionally ever since(she didn’t have a c-section though).
I don’t know what happened at work. My daughter was born on the 16th and I never logged back in, after that. I took my maternity leave and then I quit. In my resignation letter, I noted that since no one had thought it important to sort out who got my work before I started maternity leave, it obviously wasn’t important to sort it out now. And nobody bothered me. Like I said in early March… a lot of the bugs were imaginary, or just ongoing chores that would never be “finished”, the way keeping a house clean or a garden harvested is never “finished”.
Back labor happens when the baby is face-up instead of face-down. Instead of having the baby’s relatively squishy face pressing against your tailbone, the back of the baby’s hard little head presses against your tailbone. Many people describe it as the worst backache you’ve ever had. I felt it during the early part of labor, as part of the menstrual-type pain. Then Amelia started pushing my pelvic girdle apart, and that got my attention more.
I would SO love to have a convincing case to go to a massage therapist. Arrrrrr I want a back rub. Or for somebody to french braid my hair.
I’m no massage therapist, but I give *excellent *back rubs. People have been known to ask me to move in with them so they can have back rubs “on tap”.
Assuming your husband is willing, try this:[ol]
[li]Straddle a chair with your chest/arms resting on the back so that you have something to lean into.[/li][li]Have your husband make fists and very gently start rocking them around your pelvic girdle. By this I mean, he starts with the first joint pressing into your flesh then rock the fist upwards until the base knuckles make contact. This is a fairly short move. Repeat. I use this move from just below the hip joints to just above the waist.[/li][li]Alternately, he should also roll the fist from side to side. As in, the knuckle on the index finger makes contact and then he rolls the fist to the outside until the little finger knuckle makes contact. Again, just below the hip to just above the waist.[/li][li]Repeat each move across the back from side to side, gradually increasing pressure until it’s *just *this side of painful. [/li][/ol]Can’t help with the french braiding, though.
I’ll squirrel that information away, in case we end up in a moment where he’s happy to give a back rub. I just had a “perfect storm” for getting the pores on my back squeezed out, though, so it might be a while…
Looking at the workplace griping thread, I see that y’all wondered where I was. Awwwww. You care! I’m touched.
And you didn’t start a zit thread? Sattua, you’ve been here more than long enough to know that nothing gets us going like a good zit-squeezing thread. 
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Unfortunately there wasn’t anything epic. I’ve got like, one deep follicle, and it’s on my back so I can never see what comes out. I always miss the good zits.
I’d been wondering what had happened while I was gone! I can’t believe your baby is over two months old now. That’s awesome.
It took me about 1 month to really get over the fact that I had to give up breastfeeding (and I blame the baby for that one - she started sleeping through the night at 2 months, so I didn’t have to feed her in the middle of the night, and without that regular feeding or pumping, I dried up. Not that I’m complaining about my baby sleeping through the night!). But I’m glad you’re helping to bring the sanity back to the current breastfeeding culture, Sattua. AND your little Amelia is utterly adorable. Congratulations!!
Are you finding enough “me” time? I so treasured my “me” time in those months after giving birth. Mr. Smaje and I would tag-team all the time so one of us could go to the movies.
You know, I don’t feel that I’m hurting for “me” time, much. I find time to get the household stuff done, spend quality time with my daughter, and still do a little bit of crafting and get some exercise almost every day. On the weekends, my husband will take complete charge of the baby for about half of each day, and encourages me to run off and do things. I will say that I appreciate the opportunity to do things for/by myself way more than I used to.
Little squirt is three months old now. She can roll front to back, hold her head up, do crunches, and yell bloody murder. She’s a scream and a joy.
I know I’m a little late, but what about “Milly”? I love that name, probably because of the character in “Seven Brides for Seven Brothers”, maybe it’s far enough from Melissa to fly?
Sattua, I just went through this thread again, may I offer you something as food for thought about the future? If you’d rather not thats fine.
I know some folks with a daughter named Millie, and I haven’t seen her since she was a baby, but from the stories I hear she’s pretty damned awesome.