One thing I’ve always wanted to know (and if this has been asked already my apologies as I haven’t read the whole thread) is: Do the people filming those scenes ever get to be “part of the action” (if so I’m assuming it’s off-camera)?
One director, Adam Glasser (aka Seymore Butts), had a short run with a reality/documentary TV show called “Family Business”. He would occasionally be the star of a video he directed.
If you are asking if porn directors ever get to have sex with porn stars, I would say probably. If you are asking if the wardrobe guy or camera man get to I would bet less often. I am not in the porn biz, but I am pretty confident in this WAG.
I’m with you on this. B.J.'s have never done anything for me either on-screen or in person (yeah, I know - I’m almost certainly in the minority on that). As soon as one starts (on-screen) I try to skip past it as quickly as possible. In person I don’t bother with them at all.