No, not at all! But since you did bring the subject up, I really feel as if I ought to encourage you by saying those extra 15lbs would just fly off if you really applied yourself and worked out a bit more.
Oh I’m sorry if I’m disappointing you. I was only trying to be entertaining. I’m sorry if my efforts aren’t up to your exacting standards. I’ll try harder.
We can go to lunch anywhere. I’m fine with anything. Just not any of those places you normally suggest. I’m not partial to any of them. Oh, and I know what you’re going to suggest, but no…not there either. But apart from any of those places, I’ll go anywhere.
Not that I’m being critical, mind you, but haven’t you stopped to consider your friend’s feelings in all this? I’m not judging you at all, but it does sound a bit like you’re being unreasonably harsh on your friend, don’t you think? Hey, it’s only my opinion, but perhaps you might want to look at your part in this problem, and perhaps try to be a better friend. That’s my own unbiased opinion. You don’t have to follow my advice, but you might just want to think about it.
Actually that doesn’t appear to be one of the definitions. I would characterize what you described as being condescending, critical or simply obnoxious. It can’t be passive aggressive for the simple reason it requires an active action on your part.
Passive aggressive behavior involves actions or inactions that as a form of resistance that avoids direct or active conflict on the individuals part. For example, if my boss tells me to do something I don’t agree with, there are several responses:
APPROPRIATE - Discuss the matter rationally and then come to an agreement
ACTIVELY HOSTILE - Tell my boss to piss off
PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE - Say I’ll do it, but then procrastinate and do a half-ass job
And not that my Wiki link has a referring link right back to Cecil himself…so post THAT.