What’s the point of this thread?
Why do you feel you would be better for your friend’s girlfriends?
I was targeted by a “Nice Guy” at work. My friends/coworkers would talk about how crazy and undatable NG was. Usual NG characteristics- claim how kind and good they are, how much they care about things, how they could be so much better for you than your current guy, how they deserve a gf too, etc. etc. They had so much entitlement just because they thought they were better boyfriend material than others (he wasn’t); it was disgusting. Around here, you can’t use the term “Nice Guy” without people automatically thinking of that kind of person no matter how loosely you as an individual chooses to use it.
Your normal 20-40 year old females will almost always associate this term negatively, I think you’d be doing yourself a favor if you stopped referring to yourself as one and perhaps choose something more original and less creepy.
To provide entertainment and hopefully gain some insight on a common thread in an original way.
Not sure how to interpret this thread.
Is it
a) I can’t get a date, give me advice;
b) I can’t get a date, feel sorry for me;
c) I can’t get a date because women are evil/stupid;
d) I’m the “Nice Guy” everyone loves to hate, dish it out because I am a masochist and/or I enjoy whatever attention I can get; OR
d) All of the above?
Maybe. But apparently they find these men more attractive than you so you’re doing something wrong. Being “nice” probably ain’t it.
We have different experiences then. I haven’t met a girl who likes jealousy or envy or whatever you call that if they are with someone.
I bet if you look up “doormat” in the dictionary it gives you as the definition.
Perhaps I should re-phrase this. It’s not that I feel I would be better for my friends girlfriend, or anyone’s girlfriend for that matter. It’s that I feel I would be great for a lot of women given the opportunity. However, I find it hard to get past the acquaintance stage to where I actually get to know the person.
So, what do you bring to the table?
You ask the girl out. 
You have to let her know that you’re interested. Women aren’t mind readers; however, they like to think they are. 
“Hey so and so, I’m going to the bar around x, you should join.”
Then after the date, you ask, “Did you have a nice time?” Hopefully she will say yes and/or make plans to see you again.
Then, you go in for the kiss. If you get rejected, oh well. If you don’t, things will escalate naturally.
Your stealth bashing is so powerful 
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Vita Beata -
- For the most part, my friends are guys. Throughout my life this has been the trend. It’s only been until recently when I entered Nursing school that that has begun to change.
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This sounds hopeful now you’re finding more female friends. Listen and learn, young grasshopper, and Good luck!
Closest to 1.
Right. See, people make mistakes and then they learn from them. You’re entitled to your opinion, but, the theme here is supposed to start with asking questions, not making blanket statements.
P.S. If you look up threadshit, this would be a definition.
I feel I bring a lot to the table. I’m relatively young, good-looking, positive, intelligent and lead a healthy lifestyle. I have a career path in mind (finally). A loving supporting family. A great group of friends. An open mind. I’m very outgoing, funny and charming. I think I’m a catch.
He’s right. Never say never - but never with this attitude. It’s not possible. I know first hand.
Are you not getting brutally sodomized enough IRL? I can’t think of any other reason you would open this thread at this board.
Haha. Apparently not.
Honestly, I think a lot of people here have assumptions about what type of person I might be by calling myself a “nice guy.” It’s not like I’m timid, or have a negative attitude, am delusional or some all-around creep. I’m actually quite confident in myself. A couple insults here and there are not going to traumatize me because I know who I am. Yes, I have a checkered past, and I’m not afraid to admit that here in this thread. But I can recognize those mistakes and change my habits.
However, I’m still looking for advice and I know the “help me find a date” thread has been done 1,000,000 times before. I’ve been reading this board since I was 16. I’m trying to come at this from a different perspective that hopefully we can all benefit from. And, as I said, maybe get a laugh or two. : )
Maybe rid yourself of the notion that what you observe in others is how things are at home. You probably aren’t privy to who they are in private. You see a guy teasing his girl and think “He’s mean, I wouldn’t talk to her that way.” But they may be playing and flirting.
You may see a girl with a guy who has less education or a minimum wage job, you may not see what dreams they share or how good the chemistry is between them. You don’t see how he treats her when they are alone.
Just stop measuring yourself against others. Having the opinion that you would be a better match just proves you don’t respect the girl’s decision making ability or value her wants and needs. If you think so little of her, why waste time imagining yourself with her?
Upon what basis would you say you are charming?
Your luck with the ladies would suggest otherwise.
lol