i don’t know exactly who you are dealing with, but for most t-people, you can see what their target gender is. use he/she/ma’am/sir appropriate for that target.
My distaste for Dr. Money goes beyond John/Joan. It is also largely because of Dr. Money that most health insurers will not pay for reassignments today.
Thanks for the info, KellyM . . . I wasn’t aware of that.
ooh, I got questions. Just curious about gender reassignment surgery (is that the correct term?)
For MtF reassignees, is it possible to still reach orgasm after surgery? What about FtM?
I know that fundamentally the same musculature is involved, but the structures differ enough that I wasn’t sure if it was possible.
Also!
If one were a MtF homosexual transferree, does the government legally regard you as female after the procedure? Or can you still legally be married to your female love? And vice versa, of course.
As none of our helpful TG’s have had the operation yet, there may be no answers, but I’d appreciate any input 
haven’t been able to find data online. I hope I don’t offend anyone. I realize that gender identity and not sexual satisfaction is usually the primary drive towards such an operation, and might be considered well worth the sacrifice.
(I’m sure work would love to find me searching on ‘transgender sex change orgasm’ :rolleyes: )
About 1/3 of postsurgical male-to-female transsexuals report at least occasional orgasm. I haven’t seen a figure for female-to-male. (Obviously, female to male transsexuals will not ejaculate.)
It varies from state to state. At least two, Texas and Oregon, have decreed that legal sex is determined by chromosomes. In Texas, a judge annuled a marriage (posthumously) because the wife was a post-operative male-to-female transsexual (at the request of an insurance company who did not wish to pay her for the wrongful death of her husband).
In general, a marriage initiated prior to reassignment is not legally severed by reassignment. However, only 3% of such marriages actually survive (according to my psychiatrist). I do know of a few “same sex marriages” where transsexuals have married prior to reassignment.
A TG I knew a couple years back (MtF) was undergoing hormone therapy, waiting out hir year and told me something that made me wonder if SHe was pulling my leg: “Since I have started my hormonal therapy, my memories have been changing. There are things I dind’t remember from my childhood that are coming back…”
So, basically I have two questions:
1 - Has anyone experienced something similar?
2 - How do TGs feel about gender-neutral pronouns such as Hir and SHe? I saw them in a couple of books written in the 60’s, but see them very rarely nowadays.
Thanks for this thread, it helped me understand a little better.
Here’s a question for anyone out there to pick up. If you are a transgendered person who is not interested in a surgical change, what’s dating like? Do you find yourself dating gay people, straight people, or other transgendered people? Do you tell the person upfront that you are transgendered (as opposed to just into crossdressing as a hobby) or do you wait? Have you had relationships where people couldn’t “handle the truth”, or do you tend towards circles where people are much more hip to transgenderism?
My memory has been a bit better than before, but I suspect that is mainly due to improved mood. I can’t say that “childhood memories” are sharper or clearer, or anything like that.
I am a “she”. While I am not offended by the use of a gender-neutral pronoun, I prefer to be referred to as a member of my proper gender.
I generally do not use gender-neutral pronouns (except in places where their use is customary, such as in the nomic that I used to play) and prefer not to be referred to by one unless the author is in the habit of using gender-neutral pronouns generically.
Venoma wrote:
That depends severely on the competence of the surgeon who performed the Sex-Reassignment Surgery. In the U.S., Drs. Shrang and Meltzer are the two big household names in S.R.S… Both of them have a sterling reputation for keeping the sexual-stimulation nerves intact, which gives a good prognosis for post-operative orgasmic potency. If you go to Dr. Biber, on the other hand, the odds are significantly lower, because (A) he perfected his technique before the trick of not severing the sex nerves had been invented, and (B) he’s getting old and doesn’t have a very steady hand any more.
Both of the people I knew who had gone through M->F surgery were capable of orgasm. One had Meltzer do the surgery, the other had Shrang do it. Of the two, Meltzer was slightly preferred, because he knew how to put the clitoris in the right place.
Thanks to KellyM and tracer for their up-front and prompt replies
Gotta love this thread.
matt_mcl brought up a topic in this thread that I thought was a good question - one that even the Gay Guy doesn’t now! :eek:
Wendy Carlos, a well-known composer and performer, had sexual reassignment surgery after releasing one of her most famous albums, “Switched on Bach,” under her former name, Walter Carlos. When referring to the album itself, which name should be used, i.e., “Walter Carlos’ ‘Switched on Bach’” or “Wendy Carlos’ ‘Switched on Bach?’” (A comparison might be “Prince’s ‘Purple Rain’” or “TAFKAP/squiggly thing’s ‘Purple Rain?’”)
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My opinion would be to call it a work by Walter Carlos, since that’s who she was at the time. But one may still refer to it as an item in Wendy Carlos’s discography.
Similarly, tennis games played by Richard Raskind are still Richard Raskind’s games, even though he is now Renee Richards.
And a Cat Stevens album is a Cat Stevens album, even if he’s now Yusuf Islam.
Heck, the movie Logan’s Run is still listed as co-starring Farrah Fawcett-Majors, even though Farrah Fawcett got divorced from the Six Million Dollar Man decades ago.