Why do you keep going back to the gym? Your supposed to sign up for a minimum 2 year membership, go once, maybe twice, then never go or exercise again until 6 months after the membership you paid for but hardly use expires. They’re doing this because you keep showing up.
I have a friend who also had someone like asshole 2 harassing her at her gym. (Maybe gyms do attract this kind of person as employees?)
After going thru the cycle repeatedly saying “no”, increasingly sharply, she finally got truly fed up. So the next time he followed her into the large workout area and came up to her she screamed “NO! GET AWAY FROM ME! DON"T TOUCH ME! SOMEBODY HELP ME – GET THIS GUY AWAY FROM ME!”.
There was a major reaction from many other people working out in the area. Several women got in between her and him, and several men helped escort him out of the workout area. And it got the attention of management almost immediately, and they did take it quite seriously (especially after several other women reported similar complaints about him).
P.S. She is now dating one of the men who was gallant enough to come to her aid.
It’s up to you, of course, depending on how well you liked the gym otherwise. If it is not worth the hassle after complaijning, and there is some reasonable alternative, you are under no obligation to stay where people are/have been assholes to you.
Maybe it is a guy vs. woman thing. I would have complained and then waited to see if the issue was resolved because
[list=a][li]I like the gym I work out at[/li][li]Nobody hits on me (or if they do I am oblivious)[/li][li]Ther personal trainers have learned that I am not interested[/li][li]I give off a fairly strong “don’t bother me; I’m training” vibe. [/list][/li]
I don’t go to the gym to socialize. There is a core group that I train with, and we are all fairly serious about training. Most of the gym is given over to the Spandex and Evian crowd, and then there is the corner over by the chalk bins and power rack. That’s where we train. Anyone is welcome to join in if they wish, but no, we don’t need to be shown how to use the bench press or the Smith machine, and we don’t generally use the pink 5-lb. dumbbells while standing on one foot on a teeterboard.
Hope you find a better gym.
Regards,
Shodan
Of course! :smack:
Holy balls, that is hard core. It worked, though, so kudos.
That’s an odd name for a dildo.
It’s no Steely Dan…
::sigh:: I used to have a sock puppet, and the name of it was Cousin Vinnie. My Grandpa Bodoni and a couple of his sons were in the Mafia (seriously) during Prohibition as rum runners, and Cousin Vinnie was my imaginary cousin who still IS in the Mafia, and an enforcer. CV would usually offer to take care of various situations.
I like their story ^^^ better.
Lynn, if you explain what everyone already knows you meant, it spoils the joke. Or wait, does it make it better?
Because everybody “knows” that trans women are inherently gross and undesirable. :rolleyes: And Jews are out to cheat you in business and darkies just looooove watermelon, and all this makes for hilarious jokes. The smaller the oppressed minority and the bigger the proportion of people in society who regularly shit on them, the less risk for you to post bigoted jokes about them. Pathetic and cowardly.
How funny is it, when the bigoted attitude you just posted is of a continuum with the attitudes of men who murder trans women and then claim a “trans panic” defense in court, because everybody “knows” they deserve it just for being what they are. When the Trans Murder Monitoring Project reports that every other day the murder of a trans person is reported.
I see this sort of thing proliferating all the time—either bigoted “humor” or outright hate speech—because “Thanks to my privileged status, I can take it for granted that no one from such a tiny minority is around, and I can feel free to post bigoted shit about them without getting called on it.” Well, wrong!
Jeez. It was just a joke. Lighten up.
I think you’re taking this the wrong way.
The joke was on the asshole here, since that type of person is the kind to be all upset & sickened to discover that they have been lusting after and hitting on a MAN (which is what the think transsexuals are). It’s their panic reaction to this that would be the joke, not the existence of trans people.
It’s true that some people respond with hate & violence, but that’s always true. Possibly that would happen less often if more people were exposed to the idea of trans people being around them in regular activities. So this might help trans people.
Joking time is over.
Please check your humor detector settings and move the switch to “On.” The *point *was that the kind of man who harasses a woman with no interest in him is likely to be the same kind of man who’d be freaked out by finding out he was attracted to a trans woman.
You’re not my real mom!
If you don’t let me tell more jokes, I’ll hold my breath till I turn gay!
I’d start off with “No thanks, I’m good” and progress to “Please just leave me alone, I don’t want any help. I know you’re just doing your job but really, I do not want help.”
If you did complain to management, I would stress that it’s not just you that feels like that about the Asshole 1.
Things are straying off topic. lindsaybluth, stop with the sneering. Johanna, dial back the hijack.
Ellen Cherry
IMHO Moderator
Sorry, but if you’re a woman and you’re paying to go to a gym that makes you uncomfortable, I would change gyms and complain via a letter. Why a letter? Because I wouldn’t want to get into a debate with the manager or worse, call the asshole employees in and force you to confront them with your gripes.
While it is entirely possible the gym has instructed the assholes to be overly flirty to make the women feel more attractive and harass them for personal training to get more money out of them, like anything else, if it irritates the customer, they are doing it wrong.
I don’t even know that I like the idea of just complaining unless this is the only gym that is reasonable for the price/equipment/location in your area. All that complaining will do will make the staff hate you as “that pain in the ass girl”. Or better yet, what if the guys get fired? Maybe that’s good, or maybe they’ll wait to harass you in the parking lot or key your car while inside. Either way, I’d vote with my checkbook and go elsewhere if I could.
The truth is, what all of us suggest doesn’t matter. If YOU felt uncomfortable, whether real or imagined, it seems real to you, so why ever pay to go somewhere and have a bad experience?
Is that how it works?
Wonder if I can talk my wife into holding her breath just until she turns bi. 
I wasn’t the one who hijacked. The hijack was the transphobic joke. You think the problem will clear itself up? It won’t stop until it’s consistently called out for what it is. It is not OK to exploit transphobia for your little jokes. It just isn’t.