Sure, since I’m available - you already covered all the bases with attractive, not skeevy etc.
FTR, if I were available, I would also accept offers for hooking up rather than coffee…
This used to happen to me quite often, and I only said yes a couple of times. Those times involved very funny, charismatic men who took the time to chat to me (one was in an airport and one was on a train - I used to be a road warrior) before getting to the asking out bit. That gave me a chance to see if my brain was interested, because if it isn’t, ain’t nothin’ else gonna be interested either. It was still a hard sell in both cases, because it wasn’t organic; they were motivated purely by looks, just like the dudes who go straight to ‘hit on/ask for a date/proposition you’.
If you want to know why women seem cold and closed off in public sometimes, it’s because they’ve probably dealt with far too many of the latter and it’s safer to just not engage.
First I’d say I don’t drink coffee. Then I’d agree to meet, but I would be highly suspicious about it. I’m a guy. I’m not good looking, nor do I look wealthy. Ladies do not ask me out. I’m not physically imposing, either, (tall but skinny) so people do feel welcome to try scamming me, which leads me to being extremely suspicious of anyone I don’t know approaching me. I’d be waiting for the badger game to kick in.
Fortunately for me I’m not single anyway, and I am in fact very happy with my ladyfriend.
The grocery store? I’d squeeze her peaches, check her use-by date, make sure the cans not dented, then put her in my cart.
Sure, it couldn’t be worse than my current situation.
What kinda clip joint do you think this is?
One of the things you learn as you interact with people outside of your immediate comfort zone, is how to avoid the con artists and psychos. I can now size a person up in just a few minutes and figure out if they are ok or not.
Absolutely. I’m assuming they had enough notice of me (seeing my interact with the cashier / liked my smile / watched me open a door for an elderly person / whatever) to warrant their interest and it’s already been addressed that they’re cute and not creepy, so why not? Sounds like something fun could happen and I definitely like spontaneous people who don’t take life too seriously.
What does “asks you out” mean? Why can’t we have have less vague terms for personal relationships? The famous question “Would you date someone who . . .?” means what, exactly? Sex, or not necessarily? Define “date”. I’ve “dated” lots of girls I never had sex with. Maybe most of them.
OK. I opened a new account at the bank in my supermarket lobby, the girl was nice. I did my shopping, and as I was leaving, she was just relaxing on a bench outside.
“On your lunch break?”
“Yeah”
“Come on across the street with me to Jack in the Box, I’ll buy you lunch”
“OK”
What just happened there? Does that qualify for a response to this thread? Did I “ask her out”?
Just as you have immediately sized me up as someone who doesn’t deal with people outside her comfort zone? Buddy, I’m the one outside of most people’s comfort zone.
" Ask X out " is a clear and common idiom. It means to invite X on a social engagement.
“Date” is a little more ambiguous, but nit every. It can meet to regularly engage in social engagements as a romantic partner but without formal commitment, or it can be a euphemism for copulate with regularly. The difference is generally clear from the context.
I assume you’re new to English. If perhaps s poorly programmed android.
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It’s a BlackPeopleMeet.com commerical, and it drives me nuts every time it comes on. They’re both eyeballing the heck out of each other, he does the whole juggling the produce thing to impress her, and then they juuuuuuuuust miss each other in the checkout line. YOU’VE HAD THE WHOLE STORE TO SAY SOMETHING.
Well, now my answer is a little different than it would have been just a few weeks ago. “Are you polyamorous? I could be interested if you are too.” Although at this stage I’d have to be really careful that nobody I knew was anywhere near. All in all I think I’d rather get asked out at a poly meetup, or just find someone on OKCupid like everyone else.
When I was single and available, I would politely say I don’t date. If he bothered me after that I would say something far less polite.
How did you stop being available if you categorically refused to date?
Skald, I’m disappointed in this thread. Your hypothetical are usually so far out there but this one; this one has actually happened! You’re slipping!
P.S. I’d say yes if asked.
Yes, I am, but I’m trying to learn. Please explain “but nit every”. Should I add the article “s” to my vocabulary?
Actually, I’ve been dating for more than 60 years, and the parameters of the social dynamic are not always even mutually understood by the participants.
You didn’t relate to my question. If X is already out, and I say I’ll buy you lunch, have I asked X out?
No. Casual conversation at the grocery store does not a safe introduction make.
What race are you?