At what point is mediocre marriage better than no marriage at all?

[Urbanredneck]

What are those old jokes from women?

“I used to be looking for my dreamboat but now I’d settle for a rowboat”.

“I once looked for Mr. Right but now I’ll settle for ‘Mr. Ehhh… you’ll do’.”

[LSLGuy]

Seems to me that with an attitude like that the esteemed **Habeed **is arranging to make two people happy. Which on balance is a good thing.

[Boyo_Jim]

@kayaker

How would you propose? “Meh, you’ll do”?

Greatest pickup line ever!

[Nava]

@stillownedbysetters

I’d entertain shacking up with someone before I’d marry them if they were just Mr. Ok (my mother is spinning in her grave! lol). Maybe it’s because I’m an old fogey, but marriage means something to me and I wouldn’t want to have one that was that much of a compromise.

Makes perfect sense to me: the longer you plan on spending with someone, the higher the requirements. Requirements for married are higher than for shacking up, which are higher than for occasional fuckbuddy, which are higher than for one night stand.

@puzzlegal

Imo, more people should be “scared” to do the single parent thing. Children take an enormous amount of time and other resources, and while single adults can rear healthy children, I think it is irresponsible to plan to rear children as a single adult. Kids deserve more than one parent. If you want children, you should attempt to rope in another parent, first.

Plus there’s that bit about how, no matter how many times you promise your child “I’ll always be here”… it’s not true.

[Bridget_Burke]

@Urbanredneck

What are those old jokes from women?

“I used to be looking for my dreamboat but now I’d settle for a rowboat”.

“I once looked for Mr. Right but now I’ll settle for ‘Mr. Ehhh… you’ll do’.”

I never heard those jokes.

[Omar_Little]

@Velocity

Obviously, the best is a happy marriage, but we live in a world of limited options.

It sounds like you believe that a happy marriage is one that occurs by being lucky and finding that awesome person that will make you happy.

It doesn’t work that way. In a lot of respects a happy marriage takes a lot of work from both parties, to respect each other, consider the other person first and trust that you both want the best for each other.

Most people aren’t completely self centered assholes. (Although there are a lot of them.) But if you can find someone that you like, have things in common with, and you both have a sexual attraction to one another, as long as you both are willing to work towards a happy long term relationship, you can have a happy marriage. It’s really not that hard over the long haul.