Seriously, everytime
I think you’ll have to distinguish between verbal and nonverbal consent. I’d say about half the time, I get some sort of “let’s do it” or “fuck me” type of verbal agreement. The other half of the time its getting hot and heavy, the clothes come off, the legs are spread, what’s the next step? Ask politely for vocal authorization? After a certain point, a lack of objection is de facto consent. It doesn’t have to be verbal, but the objection has to be there or it’s consensual in my eyes. If she had a problem with the extra guys joining the party, she could have shouted “Stop!” or simply closed her legs and stopped it herself. Or a myriad other ways to voice her objections.
That said, it is a pretty asshole move to sneak other guys into the bedroom without prior discussion. And I’ve never been less than 100% certain about the consent of my partners, never having surprised them in the middle of an ongoing sex session and all. However, if I surprised my wife (or any other woman I have known) by pulling a stranger out of the closet, I’m pretty sure she would not be justified in letting things play out and bitching about it later. The time to voice your objections and deny consent is before the sex begins. It doesn’t rise above asshole-ishness to the level of crime unless things kept happening over the woman’s objections (verbal or nonverbal) and that doesn’t seem to be the case here.
Well according to her workmates quite the opposite. From here:
*Earlier on Thursday, a former workmate of the woman at the centre of the scandal says she experienced “no trauma whatsoever” from the affair.
The woman told Four Corners that the group sex experience left her feeling degraded and suicidal.
But workmate Tanya Boyd told Channel Nine that the woman openly boasted about the incident with fellow employees.
“She was bragging about it to staff and quite openly saying she had had sex with several players,” she said.
“There was no trauma whatsoever.”
Ms Boyd said the woman did not report the incident to police until five days later.
“I was disgusted that a woman can all of a sudden change her story from having a great time to turning it into a terrible crime,” she said.*