Well, thanks for the advice and good points. I will definitely go over the entire thread several times & think very seriously over what’s been said.
I do believe that there is definitely personal stuff going on in her life and it’s gotten worse. I need to ponder on how to recommend the EAP thing without her going off like I dropped a stick of dynamite into a 50-gallon drum of gasoline…
She used to have a close circle of bachelor/bachelorette friends, but they’ve all drifted mostly away now, and I’m about the only person on the island she confides in even a little. It’s a funny feeling working with someone whose habits, bad language and other crap is hardly bearable and yet still seeing a decent, worthy person underneath it.
Fortunately, it’s not something that has to be decided immediately. If history is an indicator, I’ve got probably a good month before it happens again.
…Except she disappeared about 2 pm today and didn’t show back up. Well, at least she didn’t come back drunk.
Anyway, thanks again. Here is one place I can always turn to for good advice!
(sigh) Sometimes history is not a good indicator. I had a plan for approaching her about this, and failing that, still thinking of how to broach the subject to my supervisor…but, this time we didn’t even go a full 2 weeks.
And this time, she did get in front of the wrong person.
CIO came by, took her for an alcohol blood test. The company has a Zero Tolerance policy for stuff like that. I don’t know the results, and no one ever will, so I won’t presume to guess. All I can say that she came in later and got her stuff, and said goodbye. Off the island. End of story. I inherit her snacks.
I don’t know if she will be given a few days to get her stuff together, or if she’ll be wheels-up tomorrow with the packers just packing everything up in her absence.
Since she wasn’t accompanied by Army security when she cam back to get her backpack, I’m assuming the former.
That’s all I know.
And except for the following, that’s all I can really say about a life going into a tailspin…about a really precious opportunity wasted:
I’m going to call her. My intent is to say that she is a very intelligent person who has the ability to rise above this, and that I believe in her.
This is all true, but it is going to be very hard for me as I’m not a very good “feel-good” person. I will probably say it all wrong. I think anyone deserves this when it is sincere…I just don;t know the right words but i gotta try.
Please excuse the maudlin sentimentality and keep her in your prayers and best wishes/healing thoughts…
Ouch. I hope you can get through to her, but remember this: sometimes, even if people yell at you or sound like you’re not reaching them at all, you are. Just knowing that you care should do a lot for her.