I’ve mentioned before that my family and I moved to Australia in June partly because my father-in-law was very ill (prostate cancer, pancreatic cancer, diabetes). Well, he passed away on the 29th. The last two weeks of his life were pretty much hell for my mother-in-law, but she got him into palliative care for the last few days and he passed away peacefully.
So, all-in-all, pretty sad, but also okay because he lived a long life, was ready to go, and was in a ton of pain.
C3 my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. It’s good he passed away peacefully. I gather what you call pallative care is what we in the USA call hospice care. They make the person comfortable and provide support for the family. May your Father-In-Law rest in peace and may your Mother-In-Law find strength and peace in her time of grief.
I’m very sorry for your loss. It’s hard losing somebody, especially around the holidays. My uncle died the day before Christmas Eve in very similar circumstances, except he had metastatic lung cancer. From what I gather, things had gone past the in a lot of pain stage and gotten to “dear god, when will it end” in the last few days. As you say, it’s very sad because we miss him, but it’s also okay because he lived a long full life and was ready to go and at that point it needed to happen. And he’d made it a year longer than his prognosis, so we had quite a bit of time to make our peace with it.
Hugs and labbie-dog snorfles for all your family, hon.
My sympathies to all of you who have lost someone recently. 
Yeah, it does seem like there have been a lot of these threads lately.
Thanks, everyone.
My heart goes out to you.
I’ve been there done that, and I’m not trying to be cute when I say that. Pancreatic cancer took my dad about 4 years ago. Diagnosed in June and gone in September. It’s a horrible horrible disease!
You have my best wishes.
-Ken