Best Friends?!?!

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I was just talking with some of my coworkers and it seems that most of them do not have what they would consider to be a “best friend.” These are men and women both.

I find that strange. I know we’re not in middle school anymore but surely some of you people out there have best friends! Maybe it’s a spouse, maybe it’s a drinking buddy, maybe it’s a sister/brother–but I’m sure that some of you can think of at least one person that falls into this category!

Restore my faith in the state of interpersonal relationships and tell me all about your best friend(s)!

I need this!

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Sorry. Not a one. If I felt the need to go out drinking, I’d have to go out by myself.

[Edited by Eutychus55 on 04-11-2001 at 04:33 AM]

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I’ve got best friends! I had one in NZ but sadly she didn’t emigrate with me.

I have to make do with my SO. Now his mother has gone hme (hooray!) I’ll even be nice to him again.

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Ok, so this isn’t starting well…

New wrinkle–if you don’t have a best friend–either tell me what you would look for in one or tell me about the person who might be the closest possibility. Or hell, tell me about an imaginary friend you had once!

This was supposed to cheer me up not make people realize they didn’t have a best friend! Now I feel guilty!

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My best friend is my boyfriend. We’ve been together for 3 years now, and he is truly my closest confidant. Yes, I do tell my boyfriend everything, too. I honestly think that our friendship strengthens our relationship, and has helped us through some recent circumstances beyond our control. Once we’re both out of school (just weeks for the both of us), we will be getting married, and I just can’t wait to be married to my best friend. (Jeesh. That sounded just too Hallmark.)

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Is the coolest, most amazing, kindest, wonderful person in the world. I can talk to him for hours on the phone and it’s like minutes, and afterwards my face is sore from all of the laughing.

Nobody makes me laugh like he does, and I don’t think anyone else wants to make me laugh as much as he does. At the same time, I know I can go to him with anything on my mind and he’ll help me work it out.

I honestly can’t put into words what this friendship means to me and how it’s sustained me through some terrible times. All I can do is say how very much it means to me and hope that I have been half the friend to him as he’s been to me.

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And Beth is my best board buddy, just thought I’d share.

If we lived together in Johnson City, I’d bet we’d all be best friends, she’s just cool like that. :smiley:

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I have three “best friends”
a female friend from school (since we were 12-13 yrs old)
another female friend from Uni (we’ve known each other four and half years now)
and the last’s male cousin who is my boy friend [sub](one two three ahhhh)[/sub](we’ve being going out for four years this May)

Luckily my Uni friend doesn’t mind me going out with him even though she’s had some stick from family and uni friends.

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And be in jail!

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Heh, that sounds like a good premise for a soft-core porno. :smiley:

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No best friend.

I’ve got lots of friends, some of them very close. I don’t think it’s that important to have one be closer than the others.

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I feel a bit weird now talking about “best friends” because it does sound a school-y but…

I have two best friends! Sadly, the first lives in Scotland and i live in the South East but i love her to bits and pieces. We were at school together and when we get together we laugh, talk, share… i just love her. She’s beautiful, intelligent, funny and she knows just about everyone in the world. We know we’re meant to be best mates because when we walk with our arms round each other, her hips fit perfectly into my waist perfectly (I’m 4ft10, she’s 5ft10… yes, we’re a comedy duo).

My SO is my other best friend. He’s the first person i call when anything happens; he makes me laugh, he listens to me, he comforts me… most of all, we think the same way. Not the same things, but the same way. He’s the best friend anyone could have and i’m a lucky, lucky girl.

Fran

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I have two, one male and one female.

The first is lurker (not that I haven’t mentioned that before! :wink: ) He’s helped me through a lot, and, I think, let me do the same. He’s been there to laugh with me, cry with me, and give me a snap back to reality when my emotions decide to throw me in that overwhelming whirlpool. I know I can, and often do, tell him everything, and I don’t have to worry about him judging and holding it against me. I can talk things out with him, whether they be about us or life in general. In short, he’s there for the good and the bad, and doesn’t waver from it. We have enough in common for the conversation to never waiver, enough that’s diffrent that we learn from each other. That’s my idea of what a best friend should be.

The second is Carm. We’ve been best friends for 7 years, known each other for 9. I met her in college and, while the closeness wasn’t there from day one, it did kinda sneak up on us. One day, we’re friends from college, talk every once in awhile, the next we’re telling each other everything, confiding in each other, asking and taking advice, holding each other for the tears, sharing each other’s laughter. She let her opinions on things be known loudly, but never backed off of the friendship just because I refused to listen to her. She’s let her temper fly in my defense (and a formidable temper it is), and allowed me to do the same. She’s made me laugh when I’m down, made me cry with her caring. I know I confide anything in her, and it will stay between us. And the reverse is true. She’s the sister I would choose if given the choice. She’s, simply, the best.

If I had to choose one of the two, I don’t think I could. They have a lot of overlap in what they are to me in my life, the things they do for my well-being (and that includes the giving and the receiving - if I didn’t have someone to do for when they were in need, I would feel like I’m missing a very important part of me), but they both help keep me complete. I think everyone needs a little of that in their lives, someone (or someones) that help to make them whole and, without whom, your life just wouldn’t be the same. I guess that’s the real definition of a best friend, isn’t it?

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My best friend is a dude back in Phily named Kerri. We met when he beat the crap out of me in sixth grade. We’ve been tight ever since.

Oh, and on a related note… Cyn’s got the hots for me.

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I get the feeling I’m alone in this, but I don’t consider my hubby to be a friend. We’ve gone way past friendship, and to call him a “best friend” would seem to cheapen our relationship. I didn’t word that correctly, but I’m hoping mebbe some of you will understand.

As far as a best bud - none now. Partly it’s because of all the moving we’ve done in the last few years… I haven’t forged the close friendships I’ve had in the past. One woman has both her father and F-I-L living with her and both have health problems - she has no time for a life. Another, who I’ve known for over 25 years, has gotten stuck in the past, and we have almost nothing in common any longer.

I think I’m in a transition in my life. Perhaps when I get th kid out of college and hubby and I retire to our future on the water - we could have potential best buds waiting for us out there…

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I’ll chime in here with those that say their SO is their best friend. I can talk to Mick about anything in my life. We find each other endlessly interesting. He’s the first person I’ll call if soemthing important is happening in my life.

I have a “best” girlfriend (that does sound highschooly!) I’ve known Karen for 15 years. We’ve each seen each other through a marriage & an icky divorce (one each), share our love of dogs & she is my best hiking buddy. For five years we lived in different states, & still managed to visit several times a year.

Fred is my best guy buddy. I’ve known him for 12 years & he is a great big sweet guy. He’s recently been through some major surgeries & I’ve been helping him out a lot. A few days ago he called me at 6am & asked if I could come over to his house & put his support stocking on because he couldn’t bend over far enough. Only time I’ve ever put a stocking on a man. :slight_smile:

I have lots of friends, but Mick, Karen & Fred are the most enduring & the most involved in my life, & vice versa.

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Oh, I should add my little brother Aaron, & my little sister Rowena. I don’t want to leave them out!

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I think we all have best friends, they just don’t wanna pick any one person that is their absolute “favorite”. I just moved away from the city where I lived for 17 years (my whole life), and as you can imagine, I didn’t know anyone when I got here. I slowly started befriending some of the people at my school, and after about a month I emerged with a best friend. Here’s the coolest part, I am her best friend also, she we do everything together. I love her immensly… never been in a bi-sexual best-friendship gbefore, it is cool

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My best friend is a wonderful young lady I went out with for over four years. We had a very brief time apart but basically just continued the closeness without the sex. We still sit and giggle like schoolgirls after each of us has a date, we screen each other’s prospectives (yes, she even quizzed Nym) and share each other’s deepest darkest secrets, fantasies and observations of life. No secrets - total honesty. I’m a very lucky man.

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Yep. I’ve got 3 really really good friends.

One I’ve known all my life. The other I’ve known for 16years and the last I’ve known for 8 years. 2 Males and 1 girls.

All three I trust completely and have complete faith in them.