I also wouldn’t say big, but, frankly, you would probably do well to lose about 10 pounds.
Guys, guys, a bust measurement isn’t the circumference of your rib cage, it’s the bust. You know, the rib cage plus boobies. Wearing a 36 band is pretty average, as that and 34 are the most common band sizes. It really sounds as though the OP isn’t big, just…lavishly endowed.
I’m desperately trying…I’ve lost 50 over the last 6 months, but the last 20 is being very very difficult 
If you lost a lot of weight over the past half a year, and your friend was around that whole time, it’s possible that she hasn’t fully noticed or gotten used to the change. You know, like how you don’t notice your little brother growing taller, but then your aunt just can’t beleive how much he’s grown because she hasn’t seen him in a year?
This of course does not excuse her referring to you as a “big girl,” which is not an okay thing to say no matter what size you are. But it could explain why she would say something like that even though to you, and to everyone who hears of a description of you, it’s nonsense.
Of course, some people judge a person’s appearance based on their own insecurities.
I’m 5’9" and 120lbs. This is a weight that works for me, being small-boned.
The man I’m currently “seeing” told me (during an intimate moment, no less) “you’re a big girl!”
I’d never been called big before in my life! Usually, it’s the opposite. And, I could never imagine something like that happening in bed!
Still trying to decide if I want to hang out with him these days.
FTR, he’s 5’8" and just a slip of a guy. He’d had a colleague call him a “shrimp” a few days before. I did not fail to notice the timing.
Not that a person’s size matters much to me–as long as he’s funny and can hold a conversation (oh, and all that other romance type stuff).
So, I guess I’m sharing this because I think that your “friend’s” comments say a lot more about her than they do about you.
Congrats on how far you’ve come these past months, and know that the only person you have to please is yourself. So, don’t fret about those “last 20 lbs.” If you’re body feels good to you, I can’t imagine anything better.
It really depends on how you carry it and how your frame and musculature distributes it. There are 5’ 4" women who would look somewhat chunky with 140 lbs, and some would look fit and athletic. I have no idea what the deal is in your case.
I just yelled out your stats to my wife and she said that you are big but not huge.
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You honestly don’t sound big to me and congrats on losing 50 lbs, that’s quite an accomplishment.
I do think this thread screams of "Am I Hot or Not"ness though.
I could be wrong.
I sure hope your not a big girl, because that would make me huge…and I don’t think I am. You my dear are at my goal weight. I’m 5’6 and in the neighborhood of 175lbs. It’s less about weight and more about body composition and distribution. If you’re carrying the bulk of your weight around your tummy in the form of a beer gut, that could be a problem, but at 140 I seriously doubt it.
As for you friend, she’s probably jealous about your weightloss. Whether she’s skinny or fat, there are some girls that like having a friend bigger or less attractive the hang around with.
In any case you are porbably a little, curvy, hottie.
I’d like to point out that even though many of you find “girl” to be offensive to a woman older than 18 and the OP clearly doesn’t mind.
And keep in mind when you say someone is “average”: are you talking about an average American woman, or average WOMAN. Americans (in general) are fat. No two ways about it. Well, maybe two: (fat & not fat) but definitely no three ways about it. Frankly I’m getting sick and tired of people “accepting” something unhealthy and thinking it’s “normal” just because “everybody else” is the same way. 200 years ago people thought that more than one bath a year was bad for you. Common practice didn’t make this bathing deficient society any more healthy. Not that I’m calling the OP fat. Quite the contrary.
Thank you for being “politically correct”. But I would have to reserve judgment until I saw a pic. Tone and chunk have similar affects on the scale but look totally different. But the measurements you gave jesleigh make the jesleigh in my imagination pretty nicely shaped. A 10" (well 9 1/2") difference between waist and hips is pretty shapely. Then again, I’m a guy, I’m 5’-11, I weigh 165 and and my waist is 33, 3" slimmer than you. But then again again, my hips are narrower as is my chest. So I guess it all rounds out.
You know, I was just gonna say, “no, you aren’t big.” But then I saw Crazy Cat Lady’s post [It really sounds as though the OP isn’t big, just…lavishly endowed.] and I’d like to change my answer to “hubba hubba!”
Ain’t nothing wrong with your stats.
on a scale 1-10 I’d put you at about a 7. (Even though what you’re asking is a bit subjective) I’d probably do ya… If thats what you’re really wanting to know.
Oh and to put it in BASTARDtm terms: If the boobies stick out further than the belly; she’s do-able. (although some alcohol may be required.)
Yes, I know I’m shallow.
**The old time standard of women’s weight is 100 pounds at 5’0", and add 5 pounds per inch above 5 feet. **
According to that, I should weigh 140. I’m just shy of 120. I’m tall and lanky, not anorexic or bulemic nor have I ever been. Tall skinniness runs in my family!
Oh and Jes, I’d trade bodies with you if I could. People think I’m nuts when I say I wish I were bigger but its true! I have no meat on my bones and damn these itty bitty titties, they shouldn’t have stopped growing so soon. I guess you gotta work with what you’re given though!
If you lost weight quite recently and have been plump for most of the time you’ve known her, your friend probably has a mental image of you being chubby. With due time, I’m sure she’ll get used to your new appearance and no longer view you to be her “plump friend”.
Eh… I really don’t have any clue how the height/weight ratio works, but all I can say is that I’m 5’8 and 130 pounds and although I’m thinnish, I’m definitely not stick thin or anything like that. I guess we may have a very different view of “skinny”. Or maybe I have hollow bones and was built for flight. I’m also asian, if that matters.
you’re not big. i agree that your friend may still have an image of you in her mind as big because you used to weigh more than you do now. (grats on losing the weight btw!)
nice stats, btw. i’d hit that anytime. 
You are not ‘fit’ (irregardless of your physical capabilities), but you are not ‘fat’.
Badtz, just a nitpick, but irregardless is not a word.
Well, a pretty ideal shape for a woman tends to be about a 36-24-36. You’re a couple of inches bigger than that, which to me, makes you sound absolutely delicious Your new man is one lucky, lucky boy.
Roadkiller: How you doin’. 
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Only if she’s 5’3"
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Sorry, couldn’t resist.
We now return you to your regularly scheduled beauty pageant.