I know, I was drunk when I made that post and don’t even remember typing it.
I second Elvis’ post.
Jes…Wow…
Big girl? Well, yes, according to some, but as a self professed expert in the feminine form, I would say you are the epitome of that self-same form.
I stand in (relative) awe.
It makes no sense to say that a certain height demands a certain weight, without any more knowledge of the person. The 100 pounds at 5 feet, and add 5 pounds an inch model… That would put my close friend at 25 pounds overweight. She’s skinny and muscular. For her to lose 25, she would have to be anorexic. And that’s the so called “healthy” weight.
I honestly think appearances are more telling. If you look in the mirror and you see fat rolls, and you jiggle whenever you move, you probably need to lose weight. If you’re taunt and strong, you’re doing fine, no matter what the scale says.
I know that sounded terribly crude, but I’m tired, and it’s all I can form.
jesleigh: I’m not sure. I think I’d have to see pictures to have a valid opinion. 
[sub]I think it’s pretty clear that you’re not a “big girl.” I’m always amazed, though, at what guys in my age group consider to be “big.”[/sub]
No, jesleigh, you are not a big girl. At least it doesn’t sound like it from your stats. Impossible to know without pics. Without pics, all I can say for sure, is…hubba, hubbba.
Tangentially, I heard Howard Stern imply that Beyonce Knowles was fat. If she’s fat, I must have a thing for fat women. I think Beyonce has close to the ideal female form. She’s got curves in all the right places. It saddens me to think I live in a country that has skewed the ideal female to make some people think Beyonce Knowles is fat.
**Congratulations. That’s great news losing that much weight. I hope you didn’t put the weight back on since X-mas. If so, no biggie. That’s what New Years resolutions and gym specials are for. Get back on the horse. If you still can’t get the last 20 pounds off, I would say the last 20 pounds is most difficult because to lose more weight would require you to dip too far into your comfort zone. You don’t feel like you can give up one more ounce of food, and/or you can’t exercise one more minute. Ask yourself if you can. If you can cut down on the pleasure foods a hair more then do so. If you can’t then don’t. It’s one thing to go from an unhealthy diet to a mostly healthy diet. It’s a totally different thing to cut out ALL the pleasurable food. There is just so much pleasure you can cut out of your life and there is just so much pain/exercise you can subject yourself to. I think you have pretty much maxed it all out. You are balanced, which isn’t an entirely bad thing. Weight balance is good, as long as you aren’t unhealthy or overly overweight. The yo-yoing is bad for you. So if losing that last 10-20 pounds means you’ll put 50 pounds on later, forget it. Stay as you are now. Be happy. But maintain. Keep excercising and eating healthy. It’s faaar better to maintain a slightly heavy weight than to yo-yo up and down between fat and skinny.
Now, if you continue to exercise you will gain more lean body mass, which increases your metabolism. Try to build a teeny bit of extra muscle. This stabilization even happens to bodybuilders. What they do to keep improving is to mix it up. Change the routine. Try new exercises. You should try this. If you jog, try riding a bike. If you do aerobics, try pilates. If you don’t try to strength train, do so. Learn to dance, if you don’t know how already. Take lessons. I recommend Salsa. http://www.salsaweb.com/ Lot’s of fun and great exercise. Keep up the fun exercise and you will shed the pounds. Really, just do NOT give up. Whatever you do, do NOT stop exercising, even if you don’t lose a single pound. At least you won’t gain any. And when you can’t exercise any more, or when you get the urge for junk food, just think. Imagine yourself 10 pounds, 15 pounds, 20 pounds lighter. Given your measurements and the praise you have received so far, believe me, lose 10 pounds and you will be a true hottie. If you get rid of that first 10 pounds, you will probably tip the metabolic scales and the last 10 will come off easier. But then, maybe you won’t need to lose that last 10 pounds. This is all IMH(nonmedical)O of course.
first thing that is important to understand about a lot of the opinions you may see posted here by men is that when it comes to things sexual or bodily men always see things as BIGGER than they really are…
Another important thing to keep in mind is that a very big determinant of how someone is viewed physically is POSTURE.
I’ll second this. I had a girlfriend who lost a ton of weight salsaing.
Sadly, I still have no rhythm.
36D? I KNEW a 40-inch chest wouldn’t fit into a size 8/10 top (although my math on these things IS fuzzy, since I make an effort to avoid topless women.)
Those numbers make it sound like you aren’t big at all. Size 8/10 is below average; you’re obviously a curvy, curvy girl, and I’m not using that as a euphemism. You ain’t fat at all, you’ve just got hips and breasts and that’s a good thing. It’s not enough information to tell for sure how you carry it - if it’s mostly muscle, then you probably look frickin’ hot, but if you have a lot of fat, you might try weight training or something.
Well, considering the caliber of women he sees on a daily basis I don’t blame him for thinking that Beyonce is a bit bigger, though I doubt he considers her fat. He meets porn stars, strippers, and high dollar prostitutes. Pretty much women who spend their whole lives making themselves into what the media considers ideal. She’s not ideal, to me either. But that’s just me. She’s not bad at all, but she’s not ideal either. To each his own though I say. Of course my vision of “ideal” doesn’t match the popular Amazonian idea of perfection either. But what I consider ideal is healthy too. Personally, I like SMALL women. 5’-4" or less and wieghing 110 max. Petite is what I like, dainty and delicate. Sure she might look fragile to many of you. But delicate is generally considered beautiful. A Fabergé egg looks fragile, and it is. But it sure it beautiful. I don’t care if a girl looks like she’ll break. It rouses the masculine protective instinct in me.
I have to totally completely 100% disagree with you that you live in a country that has skewed the ideal female to make some people think Beyonce Knowles is fat. The media thinks so, but the people don’t. No country which has 2/3 of its population overweight thinks that Beyonce is fat. The overwhelming opinion in America (witness this board) is that curves* are beautiful. I believe that you’ll find that most people you meet agree with you, not me.
*I.E. lumps from what I can tell. Yeah a person may look curvy when he/she is wearing clothes tight enough to shape (and hide) him/her. But put her in a bikini, or put him in swim trunks. On some people those curves get lumpy. Sorry I know I’m not popular because of my willingness to voice this truth, and to use such a condescending term. I’m using it to shock you into thinking about the appropriateness of the word “curve”, which is a completely wrong word for certain people. A curve by definition has no points. If two curves meet at a point (a crease or a fold), then the line that describes the curves is lumpy. If they blend together with a curve between them, then the line is curvy. Sorry, I don’t like being the voice of contention, or to be the only one with the guts to say what everyone believes and doesn’t want to admit. But facts is facts. Lumps are excess fat. If you have them (when nude), then you are unhealthy. If they weren’t unhealthy then they wouldn’t disappear when we take care of our bodies. I know it seems shallow and superficial for me to say it. But it’s the truth. Live with it, or get healthy.
For Big Girl, Little Girl comparisons, just judge yourself against the selection maintained by that connoisseur of Big Girls, artist Les Toil:
Les Toil Gallery (cartoon art, many somewhat racy but SFW.)
http://www.lestoil.net/bbpg/exh1.html