In response to this thread:
in which many people, including the OP, seem to believe that the wedding ceremony is primarly executed for the pleasure of the bride and groom, I humbly submit:
BIR: The purpose of a wedding ceremony and reception is primarily NOT for the enjoyment of the bride and groom.
Frankly, the prevailing attitude of it being the couple’s day just baffles me. Maybe it’s cause of my cultural background. (Note: I generally get kind of annoyed at posters who manage to bring their ethnicity up every third post or whatever, but I feel like it’s relevant here). My family is Indian, and anyone Indian who expressed such a sentiment would be looked upon with shock and dismay. Weddings are HUGE in Indian culture, and generally they are considered to be a party for the families and community, which is what I thought they were in American culture as well. That is, a wedding is an opportunity for a couple to make public their lifelong commitment to one another and to invite others to celebrate with them. However, the “others” aspect of the ceremony is crucial; the guests (family and friends) are integral to the function of a wedding/reception, and indeed, the planning of the ceremony should be undertaken with their comfort/pleasure in mind. For example, let’s say the couple is vegetarian, but most of the guests are nonveg and prefer nonveg food; in this case, the food should be primarily nonveg to suit the desires of the guests. Or, if the guests can’t really travel but the bride and groom would like a destination wedding, then the wedding should be held where it’s more convenient for the guests.
What is the point of a wedding if not to announce your commitment to the public and celebrate with loved ones? Why even bother if the day is “about you”? I would really like to know what the purpose of the whole shebang is in that case.
I’m sorry if this comes off as hostile, I honestly just don’t understand it. Anyone else hear me on this one?