March 3 is my b-day.
Cite? Or were you just generalizing?
Anyone that was adopted or had a child adopted in Oklahoma, Arkansas, Texas, Ohio, Ky and
some of the other state I can help in your search. Just email me personally. Don’t wait untill it is too late to find someone.
That’s my birthday.
I was a unwed mother but a lucky one for I was able to keep my son for twenty-eight years. He was killed in a car wreck November 10th, it will be eighteen years ago. He was my only child and one time he told me Mom I feel like just half a person . I know you but don’t know anything about my dad. His dad did not want anything to do with him I found him. But not all dads are like him. Most dads that I know didn’t even know they had a child. I guess I am just talking I get this way in October waiting for November 10th get here.Then I have Thanksgiving and Chrismas to get throu.I try to help others find each other so they don’t feel like just half a person any more.
She already caused plenty of problems. The one time she showed up in my life when I was a teen it was to hurt my (adoptive) mother by telling me I was, in fact, adopted. It caused a rift that never really healed (and my adoptive mother is dead now, so it never will).
I’m not bitter but I don’t really forget.
I am a little skeptical about that number. I don’t really have a better number to toss out there, but in the groups I’ve been involved with, the “happy” reunions were a lot less than 98% of those involved. In fact I’d put it down a lot closer to 50% to 60%. There were a lot of birth mothers who definitely did not want to be contacted and weren’t very happy about it when it happened. This is just my experience, though. I was one of the lucky ones. My birth mother unfortunately had already passed by the time I found her, but her family welcomed contact with me and from what I’ve been able to learn I am certain that my birth mother would have been more than happy to have been contacted by me.
As for the second part of that sentence quoted, the laws were put in place to protect the privacy of all involved. People wanting to find their birth mothers or children may say the laws are messed up, but people who don’t want contact may just as easily say the laws are too easily circumvented. Whichever side you are on, “open” adoptions are becoming much more common, and in these everyone has access to the full names and information about everyone involved (these weren’t commonly done back when I was born). At this point, I think whatever needs fixed in the laws has already been fixed, but that’s just IMHO. It also doesn’t go back and change the circumstances and laws that were in effect in my generation.