Mrs.P and I have hired our midwife and have set-up everything for an amazing, healthy, happy, relaxed birth at home.
We find two different reactions when we are talking about this with friends:
- Oh Gawd! I could never do that, it’s so unsafe and or unsanitary.
- That’s beautiful, what an amazing way to bring a young human being into the world.
So our midwife is amazing, we went with a woman who has delivered over 1000 babies and has seen just about everything. In fact, last week she delivered a baby who came out with her hand and arm around her neck, kinda like if you grab your left shoulder with your right hand. She’s delivered Breach, dealt with placental abruption, cord around neck [which apparently is very common] and all sorts of other things - but more often than not, everything is fine.
We also like her because she is not afraid to say we need to transport if needed.
We have taken many, many steps in making this decision, one the on hand we know in a hospital everything is taken care of, and everything is quite sterile*. We also know that Doctors are not exactly patient individuals and will induce after a certain period of time. That, to us, is not acceptable.
Our insurance covers everything with no co-pay, everything but a midwife that is. They will not cover a midwife, but she is allowed to be in the birthing room should we need to transport.
In our research we find the scary statistics our medical doctor has given us are accurate, but slanted to make them seem more prevalent then they really are. Our midwife informed us that there are very, very few reasons why we would need to transport very fast, and in 26 years of midwifery she has never had to do it.
There is a business to birthing, [and a movie of the same name] and much of it is talking about what costs go into giving birth at the hospital and how much each doctor gets paid per “unit”…i.e. per birth.
For my wife and I the main issue was choice, not fear. On our first visit to the doc, she informed us that if we showed up to the ER and then transferred to the birthing center, and it went over 1o hours they’d just induce us. :eek: we thought, Oh, no you won’t.
We understand extended labor, and the risks of going longer than 10, 20, 30 hrs and were informed by the midwife that there are plenty of things we can do to coax the little tadpole out!
Back to the fear: I was amazed at how actively the medical doctor was trying to frighten us. Trying to blatantly scare us into not having the birth at home. When we brought the concerns of the doc to the midwife, she had very logical retorts to everything. More and more we began to believe that a hospital was not only not necessary [for a low risk pregnancy], but was something that was inserted into society long ago for the profit of hospitals and doctors. I was born in a hospital, my wife was born in a hospital, and all of our family the same way…but now we are seeing more and more moms give birth at home after overcoming the fear of the unknown. We are seeing more and more informed parents.
What do those who have had home births think of this societal fear, and what do those who are having babies in hospitals think?
Neither one is better or worse for the purposes of this thread…
*hospitals are more likely to have harmful pathogens in rooms and hallways etc…than your home.