I know it’s overquoted, but I can’t help tossing in Woody Allen’s observation that being bisexual doubles your chance for a date on Saturday night…
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This doesn’t really seem acurate to me, Rally Vincent. I mean, if you want to skim the surface of something, yes, I am a bisexual engaged to a man. If we pursue a monogamous relationship, then, for all intents and purposes, I will appear as a heterosexual.
But I won’t be. I’m still bi.
And I didn’t choose to give up women…or decide that men were better…or any such gender-ific thing. I kinda just fell in love with a person, who happens to be male.
Well this is a coincidence. This thread just happens to show up a few days after I revealed to my wife of six years that I am bi-sexual.
Surprisingly enough she took it extremely well, after I assured her that I haven’t been with anyone else during our six years of marriage. She was more fascinated than shocked.
Why did I reveal this to her? Well, she was starting to question her own sexuality and because of her upbringing in a close-minded family felt torn about it. I just felt that having someone close to her who went through the same thing would make her feel better. It was kind of weird talking to her at first but she was just so cool about it after awhile. Asking question after question, not with a closed mind, but with an open mind.
Truth be told I am so gald it is off my chest. I know it was probably hard for her to hear it, absorb it, and then accept but it was just as hard for me, if not harder to come out ot her. Just add this to the long list of reasons of why I love my “Little Peanut”.
I want to be a bit more clear than my OP. I just sort of speed-typed it without giving it much thought.
As I mentioned in another thread lost in the fog-past, I tried sex with a man I met in a grocery store in SFO. Where else? Never mind that he was in the beginning stages of trans-gendering and completely fooled me into believing he was female. I found out soon enough, and decided oh, what the hell, I’ve gone this far and here we are in his hotel room.I couldn’t go for the anal trip(still don’t like the thought) but the mutual BJ part was ok, even though it wasn’t all that thrilling. It all added up to the fact that I was certain from then on that I was plain old hetero.
Well, that was in the 60’s when the worst consequence would probably be the clap, which was easily cured. But I can’t help thinking how nice it would be to be 25 and good looking and that fiercely horny again and have both sexes to pick from. I can’t remember the book title, but Larry McMurtry wrote about a woman character who had a t-shirt that read: YOU CAN’T BE FIRST, BUT YOU CAN BE NEXT!
Yes, that, exactly.
Thanks for your responses,you preverts.
RICK
I guess that’s what I meant. Not that you would change your sexuality, but that you would be with one person. It just happened that you fell in love with a man, so perhaps it could have just as easily been a woman. What I meant was that if one is going to have a monogamous relationship, one will have to make a decision to do so.
Like Euty and Jack Batty, I haven’t found any reason to classify myself as bisexual. Sometimes I can look at pictures of guys and identify guys who I think are attractive, but I don’t feel sexually feelings towards them.
Not true. Think of this scenario. A girl is attractive enough that she has a sixty percent chance of getting a date on Saturday night as a heterosexual. Then being a bisexual couldn’t possibly double her chances.
Sometimes I sort of wish I was, since I’ve had some very nice offers, but . . . although I like to look at women, I think it’s because I identify with them, not because I want to pounce on them. I guess I’m just “hopelessly heterosexual.” I wouldn’t be averse to being bi, if it was to develop, but it’s not something I yearn after, either. I just try to work with my existing character traits when it comes to sex. 
No-one makes a conscious choice to become bisexual in order to double their chances of getting laid. Right now - because being a bisexual female seems to have become fashionable - bisexual females don’t just have double the opportunity to get laid on a Saturday night, their curiosity value alone probably gives them a tripled or quadrupled “opportunities”.
But bisexuality isn’t about opportunites, it’s about who you respond to sexually and emotionally at a given point in time. The fact that I am able to form deeply satifying sexual and emotional relationships with both males and females doesn’t mean that I am going to find every male or female on this planet attractive, or sexually desirable, anymore than someone who identifies as “straight” is drawn to everyone of the opposite gender or everyone who is gay is attracted to everyone of the same sex.
A specific sexual practise doesn’t make you “gay”, “straight”, or bisexual - it’s much more complicated than that.
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I don’t think anyone claims it’s possible to choose bisexuality, it’s more of a “I wish it WERE possible” thing, at least that’s how I read it.
I’ve often wished for such a thing myself, but alas, it is not to be 
— G. Raven
Sure she could. She could get a date and 1/5th of a date.
Silly Rabbit, dicks are for chicks!!!
hangs his head low in shame and walks away
Aah, sexuality.
When I was 16 I had a relationship with a woman, eh, girl. I loved her, loved her kisses, her body, they way she loved me. Loved it all, and I was very comfortable being with her, sex and all. Except for one thing. She didn’t have a dick. It ended quite naturally and amicably (sp?) when I moved.
I haven’t had a girlfriend since, I’ve kissed and fondled a few women (I love breasts!), but nothing’s ever happened. There’s not a lot of women I find attractive, and they all resemble her, tall, slender, somewhat androgynous. My SO knows, and so do many of my friends. When they ask me, I always say “I know what I like, but I know what I prefer”. I think that pretty much sums it up.
But I love the thought of having my SO experiment with another man (I want to be there, too) but he will not. Flat out refuses to even discuss it. I think he has issues… 
This really is an accuarate description of a bisexual who did (for lack of a better term) “make a choice”. Being bi myself, I am often asked the annoying question of what i eventaully will “choose”, meaning what gender. It’s not a matter of choosing a gender, it is a matter of falling in love with someone. Despite the gender, when you are in love, as attractive as other people may be, they are not your mate. Only the person you love fully satisfies you in the end. It’s the same as any straight person. Just because I am also attracted to females, doesn’t mean my boyfriend doesn’t satisfy me, or that I have “turned straight”. No matter what gender you are attratced to, there are always going to be “other people”, but that doesn’t mean it will compromise your fidelity or desire for fidelity.
…and POP goes one beautiful delusion.
See, there’s a REASON (other than the above delusion) that us straight guys find bisexual women so fascinating -
…we have so much in common!!!
Seriously, to be involved with a woman who can appreciate the beauty and sensual delight of the feminine form as much as I do… That would be a wonderful time.
But my bread doesn’t get buttered on the other side because the converse is true:
“The female body is a beautiful, natural work of art. The male body is an ugly, hairy lump.”
Now, speaking as a man with more than his fair share of ugliness, hairiness, and lumpiness, I’m glad you (straight) female types are able to see past that. But that explains why I am unable to get past my distaste for the male body. I can appreciate a well-built male form (i.e. the Statue of David) but the thought of my body entangled naked with another ugly, hairy, lump? Ughh.
…and to bring it back around to that oh-so-romantic notion of who you fall in love with, don’t forget that “being in love” is a beautiful combination of love and sexual desire. I really don’t believe I could ever get past my distaste to the point where I could fall in love with a man. Does that mean my attitudes get cavalierly dismissed by proclaiming that I merely have “issues”?
So I guess this all was merely my post of the exact opposite of what the OP wanted (why I’m definitely NOT bisexual). :rolleyes:
Only if my husband has “issues” too. When he was younger he, you know, experimented…and it didn’t do a damned thing for him.
I really dislike it when folks say that anyone who’s not bisexual has “issues.” Wrong. Preferences are preferences, whether it’s “I’d prefer to do this” or “I’d prefer not to do that.”
I’m bisexual, and I find it terribly depressing. I’ve got twice the field, and I still can’t get a date! Bisexuality just means drowning in a bigger pool. 