Well, Feynn, I’m with you all the way here. Go kick his ass for me, and do some dirty boot-stompin’ while you’re at it.
They are YOUR children, more than they ever were his; being a father takes more than the genetic contribution, you know. You are indeed the true father to these kids, and they know this. Let’s hope the courts (or whoever) see it that way too. Best of luck… we’re all rooting for you!
F_X
Words to live by. Hit the louse with everything, all at once. Rock him back on his heels, and then start really pushing!
Time to let the bully know he ain’t gettin’ his way…
Only almost? I had to sniff on reading that, and I don’t even know them.
Is it possible to ask you to treat this sperm donor better than he deserves? Yes, he is behaving like pond scum. But in later years, after your children have been raised by two stable, loving people, it might be easier if they have your forgiveness of their father as a model.
Not to pee on your rant, but children should never be used in revenge, even if the revenge-ee deserves it.
As another loving parent tells me:
Regards,
Shodan
As a non-custodial father who has been fully involved in his son’s life since he was born, I have to say that I simply loathe the worthless schmucks who just wander off and basically abandon their kids. If the shit scab wants a custody fight just smile sweetly and say, “You’ll lose, buttfuck, and we’ll collect court costs and back child support from you.” He’ll probably leave you alone after that.
Grrr. I just can’t understand how someone can just ignore their kids. Damn, that pisses me off. Doesn’t the bastard know how much he’s hurting his kids? Prick.
Like that line in Mrs. Doubtfire…I need my son like I need air. I can’t conceive of not having him with me as much as possible.
I wish there was a away of persuading the dickheads like you’ve mentioned to at least pay a little positive attention to their kids. Phone calls. An occasional visit. Christmas. Birthdays. But I can’t think of any reasonable way so that they wouldn’t either have a monetary incentive, or otherwise feel as if their being “forced” to see their kids. Neither of those would create a good atmosphere in which to surround the occasion. If they don’t want to see their kids or be involved in their lives, you can’t force 'em.
:: sigh ::
What the hell is wrong with those cretins? I’ll never know.
Shodan, the only reason that this pond scum is still walking and able to articulate is because for as much as I would love to give this guy the boot fucking of his life, there is a better way. We don’t want revenge, we want security for our children.
If we get sole custody that doesn’t mean we don’t want the boys to have a good relationship with their father. We would never stop them from seeing him but the thing is… he doesn’t want to see them.
He currently has no interest in them except to use them as tools to try and gain some revenge on my beloved. If he had at least two working brain cells to rub together he would realize that the only thing he’s doing is stressing out his kids and that any custody suit he brings will be laughed out of court.
They’re not going anywhere for as long as I’m still breathing.
Feynn -
It sounds as if you and I are in agreement on what is important here, which is the well being of your children.
And it also sounds as if you and I are in agreement on how your wife’s ex should be treated - in whatever way will maximize the well being of your children.
Of course.
As to what to say to your kids - try something like "I love you very much. It’s too bad your dad misses out a lot of that, but at least your mom and I get to have you around. "
FWIW - from someone who has never been in a similar situation.
Regards,
Shodan
If I were a little closer I’d put on my Ropers and step on his neck so you could get the good kicks in.