Par un bizarre coincidence, as Pynchon puts it, in this thread where Even Sven tells her sad tale of heartbreak, and where I offer sage counsel informed by many another such sad tale of my own, I got my own heart stomped a few hours after posting my advice to her. My new GF, of about a month, whom I had completely flipped over in that month, phoned me up to say she wasn’t feeling what I felt for her. We hung up and I felt just god-awful.
I spoke to two of my exes, who (obviously) have stayed on friendly terms with me, and they both offered the same advice: DON’T call her up again, DON’T try to re-kindle this thing, it’s gone and all you have to lose is your dignity. Pretty good advice, huh? I agreed: No calling-up, no bargaining, no negotiating. Just suffer in silence like a man.
Like a man, I took to bed. And dozed a little bit, but mostly tossed and turned–and then it struck me: I had something I wanted to negotiate!
I leaped from bed, and drafted a note to my now-ex-GF, offering her a different transition from our failed relationship (she had written me a brief note of regret as I lay tossing and turning): instead of a romantic affair in which one of us (her) wasn’t feeling the emotional charge the other (me) was, how about we try a purely sexual arrangement, at least for the short term? I would totally shut up about all the romantic stuff I was spouting (and feeling) and we could continue to have sex (which was out of this world, for the both of us–she specifically noted that as the one factor that totally worked for her, in her phone call and her note) as we began dating other people. If anything sexual started with one of these people, we will inform each other, but until then, we can have our sexual needs met (and rather well, if I say so myself) and avoid the romantic stuff that made her feel uncomfortable.
I can totally do this–the question is, Can she?
Anyone care to make this interesting by speculating on her probable response? I figure I can expect, in the following order of probability, from most probable to least probable:
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She writes me back tomorrow (today, actually–the sun is only an hour away) “No, Thanks” (or “No, thanks, asshole”)
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She doesn’t respond at all–and is annoyed that I propositioned her.
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She agrees, but after a try or two, it feels lousier than I anticipate and we end it.
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She agrees, and we have a purely sexual affair for a few months until one of us gets involved with somebody else, and we stay friends
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She agrees, and we have a purely sexual affair for a few months, but I continue to have feelings for her and the problem just gets worse instead of better for me, and we break up again and don’t stay friends.