Buddhism and Loneliness

No obsession is the same as all other obsessions. That’s what makes it an obsession.

Making it an “Other” means you are singling it out for punishment or annihalation. Any other obsessions you may have are not the topic of this thread and have nothing to do with this conversation.

Actually it is when the root is the same as all the others. I’m not signaling it for punishment or destruction, I just want to let it go. Everything else was similar, all my previous obsessions where the same as this, I eventually moved on. This one is just taking longer.

What you don’t understand is that the root of this is the fear of being wrong/not knowing/ fear of missing out. It was honestly the same with everything else, no matter how ridiculous (some of them anyway) were, I just couldn’t let go for fear of missing something or being wrong. Take that away and all the obsessions crumble, this one included.

I know the root, you just seem to think this isn’t the same as the rest. The problem I have is dealing with the root.

I think I can help you then. You are absolutely, positively, dead wrong about Buddhism. You have not the first understanding of it, and have no business even beginning to believe that you know anything about it at all.

See there? How true that is? And how the world just kept on spinning nonetheless?

You’ll find your dinner still tastes the same as well, and you’ll still need to brush your teeth tonight if you don’t want cavities.

I suspect though that you are wrong about the root. I think that somebody taught you that you were only lovable if you were right about things. That if you lacked knowledge or got something wrong, you were not worth their time or approval.

If I’m right, and if they did, then that person is a truly useless asshole. Work on divorcing your self-esteem from their opinions of the world, because that person is dysfunctional.